Ejaculation problems.

[KCee30]

Been with Dp a decade. He's 42.

Life is pretty stressful at the minute. We've all just had covid and the kids have sen. Plus work etc.

He never had any problem feeling aroused, getting an erection or wanting sex. We don't have it more than once or twice a week though, sometimes less as both shattered.

Anyway, the last couple times we've had sex he's got an erection, really wanted it but can't ejaculate. He says that it feels good but just like he cannot ejaculate. Feels like he isn't as sensitive. He mentioned a tugging sensation in his foreskin too (he has an extremely tight foreskin) but he's mentioned that for a while and it's fine in certain positions with plenty of lubrication.

Any other ideas? Could stress be a factor?

Has he started any new medications recently?

@MissConductUS

Has he started any new medications recently?

No nothing. Just had covid but no medications for anything.

It's likely a covid sequela.

health.clevelandclinic.org/yes-covid-19-can-cause-erectile-dysfunction/

[quote MissConductUS]It's likely a covid sequela.

health.clevelandclinic.org/yes-covid-19-can-cause-erectile-dysfunction/[/quote]
I will have a look, ty. It did cross my mind after posting this. He tested positive on 5-12. We've only attempted intercourse twice since then as I also caught covid, kids have also had covid so just hasn't happened! It's happened both times. Never before. Unless it's a huge coincidence!

You're welcome. If you google "covid sexual dysfunction" loads of info will come up. Hopefully, it will resolve soon.

@MissConductUS

You're welcome. If you google "covid sexual dysfunction" loads of info will come up. Hopefully, it will resolve soon.

Yeah I've had a quick google thanks. He had covid very mildly so it's difficult to know whether it's that or not or just coincidental. Stress could be an impact or too for him.

This happens to my boyfriend sometimes. I've noticed it happens most often if he's gotten really close then changed position to make it last longer. It's like once he's pulled himself back from the brink he can't quite get there again.

I also think it's partly mental because the first couple of times it happened it happened a few times in a row and I think that was because he was worrying about it happening again after the initial instance. The first few times I felt a bit down because I was worried he was going off me and I think he picked up on that so was also worrying it would keep happening and hurt my feelings which inevitably lead to it happening again. But now I know it's not me and things always go back to normal so I don't stress about it and just tell him to let me know if he wants to try again and it seems to only happen as a one off once in a blue moon.

So just try and not let it become a big deal and hopefully it passes and things get back to normal.

Around mid to late 40s possibility Delayed Ejaculation, I suffer from it sometimes, as the PP says, you just can’t get to the right point, then it gets in your head and becomes as self fulfilling prophecy.
Try to not it worry you

www.nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculation-problems/

Does his foreskin retract fully, especially when he is inside you? If not he might not be getting stimulated fully

Separately though, sounds like he should have seen his GP about the tight foreskin issue rather than struggle with it and now might be contributing to the issue

Thanks all. We tried again (but didn't mention it too much as didn't want to stress him out about it). He managed to orgasm but he says it still doesn't feel right. Like not the usual sensation!

He has no issues getting an erection, he wants to have sex just something not quite right.

He does have a tighter than average foreskin but he's always had that and he knows how to manage it. He's definitely a 'grower' not a 'shower'. Quite small when flaccid but pretty large (around 8 inches) when erect so his foreskin gets stretched out I guess. No idea what I'm talking about 😅 it's fine with plenty of lube. It can just tug a bit if not lubricated enough or not in a good position.

@Marieg1990

Does his foreskin retract fully, especially when he is inside you? If not he might not be getting stimulated fully

Separately though, sounds like he should have seen his GP about the tight foreskin issue rather than struggle with it and now might be contributing to the issue

Yes it does. It's always been a slight issue with him but we know to manage it with plenty of lube and the right positions. I'm not sure if it's contributing or not because it's always been tight! 🤷‍♀️

We’re recovering from COVID and I noticed that DH had difficulty ejaculating as well - possibly related. We didn’t have sex while we were positive but I did try to give him a handjob to help him out he had no problem getting hard but couldn’t finish. Even lubing him and massaging his frenulum with a vibrator for 10 minutes didn’t work, and that never fails! Tried again last night and no issues, back to normal messiness

Might be worth him getting circumcised ?

@FabulousMrFifty

Might be worth him getting circumcised ?

@KCee30 I agree with this hence why perhaps seeing a GP. There are different treatments but although people hold strong views both ways, being circumcised would solve that and from a female perspective I loved it when my OH had it done.

Sounds like he is putting up with it because he can manage when there are solutions there

@Spuriously17windows

We’re recovering from COVID and I noticed that DH had difficulty ejaculating as well - possibly related. We didn’t have sex while we were positive but I did try to give him a handjob to help him out he had no problem getting hard but couldn’t finish. Even lubing him and massaging his frenulum with a vibrator for 10 minutes didn’t work, and that never fails! Tried again last night and no issues, back to normal messiness

Interesting, ty. How long since he's had covid? The 2 times we tried was after his isolation but not by that long. He did manage to orgasm last night but he said it didn't feel right despite that he really wanted it.

@FabulousMrFifty

Might be worth him getting circumcised ?

A possibility yes. But something he's always been dead against. He's worried it will take away the sensation for him. He's not had too many problems until now!

Fuck my life. We've gone from someone not being able to ejaculate a few times to remove his foreskin!

A few times!...why is it even a fucking problem right now? Y'all mad.

@KCee30 it was probably a week after testing positive that we tried and failed. A week further on and he was ejaculating normally

I used to suffer from a very tight foreskin, felt light a very tight ring at the top. Regular stretching whilst in a warm bath made a world of difference. There's guides on the internet, and definitely a better first step than going straight to a circumcision.

[quote Spuriously17windows]@KCee30 it was probably a week after testing positive that we tried and failed. A week further on and he was ejaculating normally[/quote]
Thank you. Dp is nearly a month on from testing positive so hopefully things will be okay again soon!

@lostincumbria

I used to suffer from a very tight foreskin, felt light a very tight ring at the top. Regular stretching whilst in a warm bath made a world of difference. There's guides on the internet, and definitely a better first step than going straight to a circumcision.

Thank you. He has learned to manage it himself, he is in his 40's and he's always had the issue. Certain positions can make it feel like it's tugging but others fine! He really Doesn't want to be circumcised as generally does not cause a massive issue! The issue is more so with pulling it back over afterwards. Can be a bit uncomfortable for him or when cleaning himself!

Just out of interest has anyone heard of covid having an effect on a womans ability to orgasm?