Man here, and I’ve NC for this.
I’m a new relationship, and something has come up.
The first time we DTD it was at my place, and it was on a Sunday afternoon when she was due to visit a family member and I was due to go elsewhere later in the afternoon. We’d met and dated on 6 occasions before, and from the high quality of her underwear and how she took charge it was clear she’d decided that it was going to happen that afternoon.
On an earlier occasion she’d mentioned how sex was best during the daytime, and never at nighttime, and I assumed it was a joke. But since then she said it again on 2 or 3 occasions saying it’s not a good idea to have sex at night when going to bed because you’re tired and have eaten and drunk and it would be on a full stomach.
Since then we’ve DTD on a number of times when we've spent the night together, in a hotel and at her place, but only in the morning, and she'd warned me (either in the afternoon or over our meal) that we wouldn’t be DTD that night. On one occasion we did though DTD at night in bed, after a lot to eat and drink, and perhaps it was because she’d had a lot to drink. We’d also done it that morning.
I’m all for spontaneity and sex during the daytime, or in the morning, but the reality of life is that because of work and daytime commitments bedtime is often the only opportunity.
Has anyone had this before and how should I deal with it? Everyone has a choice about where and when they have sex, but I’d find it limiting never to have it in at bedtime.