Sex with teens in the house

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My eldest kid is now 15 and I'm morto that he might hear us having sex. He won't go to bed and is always hanging round the bathroom, hall when we are getting ready for bed.
Me and dh lock the bedroom door but I'm worried he can hear us. My dh doesn't give a hoot and tells me to relax but to be honest I'm anything but relaxed.
How do other people cope with teens in the house??

What is so bad about a 15 year old knowing his parents have a physical relationship? I suspect, if he is anything like most teens, the slightest creak of the bed would have him sprinting off to the furthest point of the house!
My DS is rarely without his air pods in his ears so I doubt he hears any noise in the rest of the house.

I thought that was why so many people had sex with music on.

Without sex your son wouldn’t be here.

It’s a bit ‘cringe’ having to hear your parents have sex. I’m sure they know you do but I get what you mean about them hearing. I’m not with my DC’s dad, they are 15 and 17 and I’m not sure I could get away with having someone stay over at the moment, my eldest dc wears headphones most of the time so probably wouldn’t hear a thing but the 15 year old (who’s room is next to mine) would hear everything. This is why I have sex when they are not here 🤣

We put music on, do it in the morning when the teens are still in their pit, or do it silently. Its hard though

@LocalHobo

What is so bad about a 15 year old knowing his parents have a physical relationship? I suspect, if he is anything like most teens, the slightest creak of the bed would have him sprinting off to the furthest point of the house! My DS is rarely without his air pods in his ears so I doubt he hears any noise in the rest of the house.

Because it is fecking embarrassing and no kids need to hear that stuff.

Same boat here, not that we have the energy during the week.

We tend to try first thing on a weekend morning if we're in the mood, but often one of them is up and about already so we just have to be very quiet and not rock the bed etc.

My partner works nights, mostly at weekends, and when we had teenagers in the house I was doing Mon-Fri, 9-5. This meant that time together for us was quite precious. We would often retire to the bedroom during the afternoon for sex at weekends. We didn't make a scene about it, and there was no screaming and loud moaning, but it was obvious what we were doing and that we were not to be disturbed.

There was no embarrassment, either on our, or their behalf. The girls have grown up in a sex-positive household, and seem to be unharmed by it - in fact they are not hung up in the least about sex, and treat it as a normal part of adult life.

Our sex life mattered a great deal to us, and we were not going to sacrifice it in order to present the erroneous image that we were not sexual beings to our then teenage children. I suggest that you do likewise.

Car sex?

@MintyCedric - Now that’s when you need the old French 2CV. No gearstick in the way. I learned something from my days in Paris long ago! 😉

I had a GF 40 years ago. GF used to have two teenage sisters. Her mum and dad used to announce to us all that they were going upstairs and having private time.

Somewhat more disconcertingly GF and me were caught by her mum at it, and she said she would get us a cup of tea after we’d finished.

She did.

Weekend mornings worked for us as teenagers did not wake until mid morning!!

Just need to be quiet in bed. Not easy but we try our best not to make the bed creak.

I empathise as I too struggle with this with my DCs - it's hard to relax. However, I remember in my own teens I had a friends whose parents did as another poster has said...used to calmly announce they were going for private time. No screaming etc but it was obvious what they were doing. They were a very affectionatr couple and I actually remember being so jealous vs my own parents who were cold and clinical, and actually ended up divorded. My friend never seemed to mind - she just laughed and was very well balanced about sex herself.

Eek. I would die a thousand deaths before I announced to my child that I was going up for quiet time with my dh. Maybe I'm uptight but I find that incredibly weird and inappropriate. Imagine them sitting there watching telly knowing what you're doing upstairs.

I’ve always been so grateful I never heard my parents have sex. I’d have been put off it for life. 😹

I enjoy watching 'Sex Education' on Netflix for the cringe factor.
Mother is happy to talk to the Son about all sorts.
I almost put my fingers in my ears and go 'la la la'.

Mind, it is a mark of my age (recently 50) that I really like the house they live in.

Plot a bit rubbish..

Our 26 year old daughter, who lives in France, was staying with us back in October and my partner and I were having sex one morning at about 8am when she knocked on our bedroom door. I said for her not to come in, but she was on auto-pilot and walked straight in on us. There we were, partner on her back with her feet on my shoulders, and me humping her for all I was worth.

The daughter turned on her heel and left us laughing, as she seemed far more embarrassed than we were. We all had a good giggle about it later.

If you're sqeamish about parents having sex then I have some bad news to break to you about the future of the human race.

Me and my four siblings used to say our parents were making baby hippos and keep well away.

I’m early 40s, so it has been some time since l was a teenager, but looking back, it was just as difficult, if not more so, having sex with parents about the house!

Currently struggling with this. I don't want sex as we don't end up experimenting or changing positions as we are trying to keep the noise down. It's not the bed creaking, it's more heavy breathing from DH. And he's reasonably fit! We also only try at night when I'm knackered and the kids are still awake. He also insists on lasting for ages and not letting himself climax. I've explained so many times that he'd get it more if it didn't last as long. I lose interest

Just get on with it.

We have a 4 story house, sometimes we'll have a quickie in the lounge when they're in the kitchen on the floor below, or we lock the bathroom door, lock the bedroom door, etc.
A bit like being teenagers really.

I think this is why my DS asked to see a floor plan of our new house (new build) and picked the bedroom furthest away from ours 😂 Not that we’re loud but he also has his girlfriend over and I most definitely don’t want to hear that thanks very much.

Just to add, for the people who said they’d feel embarrassed about hearing their parents having it off…my mum went through a long lesbian phase. My brother and I definitely knew what she and her girlfriend were up to when they went for a ‘lie down’ 🤮 Not fun to listen to when you’re 10 and 13.