Advice or encouragement needed!

[ConfusedMayan]

Name changed for this.

Essentially I’ve always been very sensible, arranged marriage, kids career and then divorced after husband had an affair. He’s still the only person I’ve DtD with and the last time was probably 4-5 years ago.

I’ve recently struck up a friendship with a man, a bit younger, and we have been getting close, spending time together in shared interests. I find him very attractive and I think he expressed a desire to be intimate… I’m rubbish at reading the signs and possibly suggestive language… I think. Upshot is he’s coming over tonight.

How do I tell or encourage him to make a move? I’m not sure I want a relationship but I’m definitely going through the mid 40s sex surge and would like to have sex again. With that in mind should I DtD if the option arises? Can the FwB thing actually work?

Advice or encouragement or even discouragement appreciated as there’s no way I can ask friends or family about this.

You'd like to have sex with him? I'd get dressed up, and look at him. Make prolonged eye contact. It's remarkably intimate. If nothing happens, nothing happens.

What did he say?

OP, obviously l don’t know what happened but may l make 2 key pointers here.

1. We are talking about sex here, not rocket science. Think passion and hormones bubbling. In this case you can consider whether you want to consider a relationship at a later stage.

1. From your post it would appear you are still of child bearing age. In addition sexual health is important. Smart women carry condoms!

Thanks for replying, it all went well last night (and this morning ).

Turns out I had been somewhat overthinking things and just had to dive in.

This is lovely to hear

Aww well done op ,sometimes nerves just get the better of us .