Anal play

[Alanis45]

My new partner has let slip that he loves the idea of anal play on me, licking for ages etc rather than penetration. I'm open minded but this feels daunting. Anyone else feel this?

I've never been a fan of it personally I always felt like I would shit myself and just couldn't relax. That's not to say I wouldn't try again in the future maybe. If you aren't comfortable trying it then absolutely don't but if you want to then see how it goes.

I like to receive but don't intend to ever give!!

I think I'll give breakfast a miss today.

Watching... My FWB likes the idea of anal too...I'm not sure yet XD

It’s all great, no harm in trying I say

@Alanis45

My new partner has let slip that he loves the idea of anal play on me, licking for ages etc rather than penetration. I'm open minded but this feels daunting. Anyone else feel this?

What, specifically, are you worried about?

Have a shower first so you're nice and clean. If he's not penetrating you, then poo shouldn't be an issue. If you are worried about that, you can always douche with a little warm water a couple of hours beforehand.
LoveHoney sell a basic douche and have a good instructional video.

He can, of course, play with your perineum and surrounding area to relax you first before going anywhere near your arsehole. A little oil or lube might help.

If you don’t feel comfortable doing it then don’t. Plenty of women don’t like anal play/sex. If you do however want to try it then just ensure you shower just before anal play takes place.

I personally love it. (Female here)
My DP and I indulge in full penetrative maybe once a month, outside anal play a little more often. More so because douching and making sure all matter of anything is gone completely is a chore sometimes.
Licking and general play - just make sure your showered and clean and as a PP said, poop won't won't the issue.
Definitely douche for full penetrative and use oil/lube.

One thing I have discovered is anal gives you some SERIOUS orgasms as a female. My god, out of this world. And also because its deemed as 'hot' and very 'porno', the entire experience, and the pleasure is heightened to another level. DP always says his orgasms are way harder, are mine.

Just remember usual rules - only partake if you want to explore and make sure you both know each others boundaries.
And have fun!

My DH has licked there before. It was good and when I'm using a vibrator I like to stick a finger there. Never had anal sex though

Why not try a little personal play with a butt plug on your own? That way you can see what you might like/dislike. No risk of pooing on anyone. Far more comfortable as you're by yourself.

Fwiw, I like it to an extent, but ex had a very large penis, so was really uncomfortable penetrationwise. I liked a finger and a lick from him. I'm more than happy to give.

Waiting to get to a comfortable place with new partner to feel I can talk about anal and gauge where he's at. So I do get the hesitancy.

Enjoy discovering what you like!