Sex hurts ever since I gave birth 2 years ago

[Obviousnamechangeduh]

I gave birth to my son 2 years ago via c-section.

Ever since then, sex has been so painful I avoid it completely.

Only way I can really describe it is like it's too tight down there. I feel like there's something in the way stopping penetration. It's like a burning pain as soon as he gets in, like he's broken through some sort of barrier, and I feel like my vag is on fire.
It's worse the slower he goes.

Logic is telling me that this is because I'm not relaxed and this is tightening of the muscle, but we are using lots of lube and I don't think I'm tensing up much (though, admittedly with the anticipation of pain I might not be as relaxed as I should be).
Foreplay doesn't seem to improve things, and to be honest sometimes I just want a quick shag, so this is very inconvenient in such cases.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? I didn't have a vaginal birth so didn't think there would be issues down there 🤔

I would see a women's health physio. Sounds like you could have muscles which are maybe too tight and need a bit of massage (sounds weird but it's a common issue!)

Google vaganismus - does that sound familiar?

I have it & there are very effective treatments with a bit of work.

Apologies to OP for jumping into the thread. I have the same problem. I had c-section 2,5 years ago. In addition I have no libido. I guess it is either because I am too tired all the time or because I still breastfeed my DS 2-3 times a day (after nursery, in the evening before going to bed and in the morning after waking up), or both.
I wonder who to approach? Women's health physio or a counsellor or both?

Man here so excuse me jumping in.

I just found out about a thing called the "husband stitch"" which is sometimes added when a woman is being repaired after birth. Often this is done without consent or even seeking consent. The idea is that it tightens up the vagina for the husband's pleasure.

Worth asking if you have been subject to this brutal process!

Thanks for replies. It certainly seems like it could be vaginismus. I'll have to look into possible treatments.

@Lily7050 I feel the same, low libido, I'm assuming this is partly due to lack of sleep and general parenthood burnout. I no longer breastfeed but I do go to work at a demanding job which adds to the exhaustion.

@hairyhead10 As explained above, I had a c-section so this isn't applicable to me.

@Obviousnamechangeduh - apologies, I didn't read your first post closely enough.