The longest period with no sex?

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Just that really.
When I was with my Partner of 15 years sex was avoided (by me) months went by and I didn't notice.
Since I've been single for the last four years the idea of not having sex or accessing sex scares me!
The longest I've gone without sex is 3/4 months.

12 months and counting...he is going through male menopause triggered by loss if family member 2 years ago I feel awful but miss him porn isn't fun and I'm gaining weight as can't be bothered now.he is also 19 years older 56..

1 year and counting. Our marriage is slowly getting destroyed and my confidence is zero

NC for this post...

9 months while pregnant.. I'm now experiencing postpartum sex drive slum and pelvic floor smashed to the smithereens...hormones depleted to the ground and I had episiotomy so suspect I've suffered some nerve damage in the perineum area? I'm grateful my child is healthy but what a trade off..no idea if I'll ever have enjoyable sex ever again, makes me feel really sad...

Its been 8 months for me. Exdh wouldnt have sex while I was pregnant either and I was pregnant a lot.
I used to have a lot of fuck buddies who I could call on but I deleted all of them when I realised they didnt give a shit about me.
Am not really arsed which is not like me as I have a high sex drive.

Was 2 years without sex for me, other stuff in between with men but for various reasons sex never happened. I don't ever want to wait that long again…

Relationship ended 5yrs ago and had a fwb until before lockdown. About 2.5yrs & now with lockdown lbs feeling super self conscious about getting out there 😕

Can't believe I'm answering this and others are in the same boat..My partner of 13 years then in 2015 had been having an emotional affair with a female workmate for 2 years on night shift I'd never heard her name while I lay in bed night after night alone worrying about him. Tweets upto 5 a day calls txts, her on Facebook still won't add me. I believed the platonic friends stupidly but you don't keep platonic friends secret, so many things I've found out makes me sick and a clown for staying in this circus since 2013 we've been intimate twice its now 2022 were like roomates he thinks all hunky dory while I can't remember the last time I had a passionate kiss the most intimacy is a hand on my knee before he starts to snore..it's always we will soon when we go on holiday never happens. I try occasionally to bring it up in a fun way but he doesn't get it I think he's withholding it cos I took his playmate away she works somewhere else, he works days latest home 7pm and still nothing. I'm not bothered about the sex but some comfort and human touch so at night when he's snoring I'll cry myself to sleep other nights I want to kick him up the backside and say get out..I'm taking a week and going to decide if I need a roommate or a partner and he went to her home once then it was twice when she broke her leg drunk with other workmates.later found out he's gone twice on his own on 4 buses I was in hospital with pneumonia but he couldn't visit me..After reading this I've remembered all the other stuff and I'm going to get the bin liners to pack his stuff and get my house and car keys off him. He won't give me closure and not had a real apology for being dishonest, disrepectful, deceitful and disloyal she is 2 years younger than his step daughter it won't get better if your partner has stopped altogether and anyone who complains only get 3 times a month count your blessings..I could go out tonight and have sex with the first nice random guy but that's not my style and I don't want pity or charity sex from him.the thought of him touching me is making me cringe now.

2 months. Wish it would go longer. Sometimes I know its coming round again and I cry a little when he isn't looking.

If you feel such dread, are you still in love with him, or are you trapped in a relationship because of children, finances or housing..if you do love him there may be a medical issue low or no libido many health conditions and medication can be the cause. If you don't love him try work on an exit plan especially if you are young and you are giving him charity sex just to keep him happy, that will crush your self esteem after a while having sex because you think you should..good luck

Currently about 3 weeks. I do still enjoy it but am just so bored of it. Teenage kids at home and I don't want boring, quiet, samey sex. Once the kids leave home I hope I'll want it more. Husband was working from home during Covid (as am I) and we were doing it weekly then whilst the kids were at school. At least then I didn't have to worry about noise, or doing it in bed every time. I know I could make more effort but it feels like a chore and a chore that I don't want to do. DH doesn't want to talk about it and I would quite happily go without for long periods. I never initiate it as I never get the urge. I don't know what the answer is but I dread him coming to bed at the same time as me now as I lie there just waiting for him to make his move or ask.

Not tied to him financially my house, my car etc. All the stuff from the past is in the past but it still pi**es me off about what he did..The problem is I love him and he me. We have so much in common 22 years together and I lost my mum last September and he has been so good. Its taken a long time but it feels like we are back on track. Except the sex it's now twice in 8 years and an odd passionate kiss. No charity sex or pity sex I have told him if he thinks doing it then it will be OK not to do for a few years and he said he would never do that. It's not even about sex I guess I could go out and have sex with anyone. It's still how can you lay in bed night after night or in the morning and not even act as if your partner makes you want to have sex and feel attractive and wanted. Still the most is he sleeps with his hand on my hip or thigh or holds my hand sometimes I'm ok with that but I want someone to hug me kiss me and act in a loving way. If he'd always been this way fair enough but it all still feels like it's her that's the elephant in the room. He's still breadcrumbing me ( if no one has heard that please Google it ) but by the time he's ready to be sexual again I feel I won't be able to let him touch me..So I'm not sure if we are lovers or roomates.