Hiring an excort

[Estherpologist]

Has anyone every hired an escort?
There are days when the need for a shag is almost overwhealming, and I wonder whether paying somebody else to scratch the itch might help, or just make things worse.
When I've heard men talking about paying for sex, they've always sounded disatisfied, but I've never been part of a conversation about hiring male escorts.
Is the reality anywhere near as good as the idea?

Don't pay for sex, it's really not something a decent person would do. Also, what's the point with having sex with a (probably gay) guy who doesn't fancy you and is there under financial duress, when there are so many hot young men on hookup sites who would willingly give you some no strings fun??

Also, prostitutes have a very high burden of infectious disease (another reason why it's a shitty, exploitative occupation which we shouldn't be supporting). Point is, it's not particularly safe for you, either. But if you want HPV, or something much worse, go ahead!

I am with the previous poster, it’s exploitive.
I am a woman who was groomed and exploited by a much older man when I was under 16, so I guess my view is different to most.

Whilst I am grateful for your opinions, and sincerely wish you hadn't had to deal with that shit @Boofle45, I was asking about the experience rather than the ethics. ❤

I understand, I just wanted to point it out because my experience may blinker my view on prostitution and not be one that others share.

Boofle you've lived it, your opinion is more valid than most peoples and absolutely should be heard. So sorry you went through such a terrible experience.

I was asking about the experience rather than the ethics.

You want to sanitize it, but it's inherently ethically problematic when you use your financial privilege to buy another human for sex. That's not consent: consent is enthusiastic desire. He'll probably be disassociating to cope with the experience. Don't you care?

@Rocaille Thank you again for your opinions on ethics. I am, however, asking about the experience.

I would imagine the experience might very well be like having sex with a known lothario. I did once, many years ago when I was young and naive. Even though he was stunningly gorgeous, well-known in the local area, and had been really nice and kind to me, when we did the deed it was dreadfully dull and mechanical.
If you read punting reviews (yes, I have) by men they often read like a robotic checklist: did that, then she did this, then I did that, etc. Dull, dull, dull - as a woman I want some sort of connection! Isn't that what you want, OP?!

I honestly can't imagine enjoying sex with someone I've had to pay to be with me!

So very unappealing and to echo others, exploitative and unethical too

@rampitup I would expect a lothario to be far more interested in pleasing himself than an escort.
Yes, I absolutely want a connection, but as that's not an option at the moment, I'm considering my options.

Can I ask why connection isn't an option at the moment? I'd imagine it would be fairly easy to find a man who would shag for free?!?

Just stick a profile up on a hook up site, and you could be fucking with a hot guy by this time tomorrow! And no need to make yourself a pariah in the process...

Buying someone’s body is rape or sexual assault OP..

OP, l’m afraid I don’t understand this. As an early 40s woman, should l want to, l could go out tonight and most likely find someone to have sex with me.

Although it is unlikely to become a loving relationship, l would at least know that the passion was there and they really wanted to lay me. Plus, if nothing else, l would still have the money in my purse.

Is the OP a woman though?!

I looked into it early summer
I’m the end I joined a rather shady website and got one for free
Not all Sex workers are miserable and exploited
The man I nearly used was a late 40s guy and I found him on adult works

I tend to agree that you’d get a better professional service rather than looking trawling through randoms online
My experience was free , but he was a total stranger ! It was fine

I’m assuming your female !

If you want to pay someone for sex, so it. Just be careful, take steps to ensure they’re genuine and make sure they use protection.

I think there’s something much more legitimate and fair about paying, when they’ll be focused on your needs and giving you a pleasant experience, than a hook up. Arguably the hook up is more exploitative. At least if you pay, everyone knows what the deal is!

@thedancingbear

Buying someone’s body is rape or sexual assault OP..

This is the stupidest comment I've ever read on here.

I have enjoyed the company of a male escort. before. It’s been when I have working and staying overnight in a City hotel.

For me it was the freedom of choice (I was looking for a particular type of person), who arrived as described and we had a couple of hours of fun. Entirely concentrated on me. On demand, what I requested. I didn’t feel I needed to give back.
All very selfish.

In reality I got what I wanted, for a couple of hundred pounds, back out the door, and I was bathed and lying watch Hotel TV for 9.30pm.

why are people so squeamish about sex?

Even if you just happened to be the sex worker’s type and had amazing chemistry, I can’t imagine sex being anything other than chore for them. Most see multiple clients a day, most days of the week. Surely even the most rampant libido would get fed up of it, that often? I don’t think I’d get past that fact personally, let alone ethical issues.

When some women go on dating sites, and have a first hook up, they often take a man back to their home, or his place, and want sex immediatey, not much difference than an escort, except they have free sex.

@1forAll74

When some women go on dating sites, and have a first hook up, they often take a man back to their home, or his place, and want sex immediatey, not much difference than an escort, except they have free sex.

I think the difference is the man in your scenario will likely be thinking “this is hot - I’m in here!” as opposed to “bills to pay,, let’s get this over with”.