The day after a good session

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Posted this in mainstream Relationships but was met by mainly judging eye rolls.

Does anyone else struggle to look their dh in the eye after a steamy night without blushing / getting the giggles?

We are vanilla personified until we've had a drink! Last week we had an overnight baby sitter, a hotel stay and a boozy night out. First time in forever.

Let's just say things were way steamier than usual. I bought us some toys for his birthday and gave him them in the hotel room!

I'm mid 40s, we've been together 13+ years but I always feel a bit shy the morning after a shag. Last week was another level (humble brag) though!

Anyone else or am I a lone weirdo on this one?

Nope that's just you!

We have a very non-vanilla sex life (I'm assuming). You name it, we've done it. I've never felt like that afterwards.
I think you've now proved you can do other things and excite each other in new ways, which is an awesome thing. Good on you!

Keep it up. Vanilla is also nice, but just being open to new things is important. Don't be ashamed.

No I can't say I'm ever shy about sex with my husband.

I know what you mean yes, OP. I get embarrassed after too a little bit. But not after our usual sex. However if we've been having a drink I do get more adventurous. I feel a bit shy the next day too but he doesn't ever bring it up or anything. He knows me by now and is pretty cool about not discussing it after lol. I bet he thinks that if he embarrasses me the next day he would never have it again though probs lol.

No, not at all, although in the past I was not comfortable discussing sex. Now I'm in a relationship when we talk about our sex life, we discuss our last "session" a lot, what we liked, how good it was etc. It's very liberating and exciting. What changed it was his ability to talk freely and that made it easier for me and now I can talk to anyone about sex and my sex life (not that I would...obvs it's not always appropriate).

I remember this on relationships......it all seems very teenage. You've been together for ages ,why would it be like that the next day?

Phew. And I thought it was just me. You are not alone OP!

It's been a long time, but I think I kinda got that depending on the timing. If it was the morning after sex at night or a mid week morning, possibly yes. If it was the weekend (before kids) where we could just chill, then probably no. It might also have been about who I was with.

How can you be shy with someone your spent the night doing naughty things to? Bit odd so just relax. I'd only be shy if the people next door heard me.

I don’t get embarrassed but I do get the giggles to myself sometimes if we’ve had a quick morning or daytime session where we need to get on with life afterwards and slip straight into “did you remember to update the Sainsburys delivery?” territory.

I thought the question was going to me, ‘the day after a good session do you find it hard to walk?’

My answer would be - yeah, sometimes!

As for do I feel a bit awkward, the answer would be nope.

Awkward, no. Horny, often.

Never felt shy the day after no.