How long do you want until you have sex?

[Ladywholoveswine]

Ok, so there is no one answer fits all…but roughly how long do you wait?

I’ve generally waited until the second or third date.
Does this seem quite soon?

but I also love sex, so maybe that makes a difference!

It depends. I had sex with my husband on our first date. It wasn't planned, it just happened. Normally I would wait a bit because I think in some cases it can give the vibe that it's just about casual sex and you risk the relationship just being based on that. But it depends on the people involved and the situation. If you're both on the same page and it feels right, then go for it. I don't think there should be any set rule.

Second date with me and OH. It felt right and it was amazing. Still together after 10 years.

4th or fifth date for full PIV but we had bathed together and engaged in mutual masturbation by the third date

3rd date rules 😉. Whatever feels right. For me if it feels right and have the opportunity then go with it.

It is different for different people.

Be glad you didn't ask in the Relationships forum. You'll be accused of all sorts in no time!

When it feels right. Can be hours or weeks. It’s all about chemistry and passion, not a ricking clock.

Ricking clock = ticking clock!

I think it depends on your expectations and feelings. I think it’s ok on the first date as long as you are emotionally prepared for the fact they may vanish soon after. I try and wait until the 3rd date if I think they maybe relationship material.

I think it’s good to sort the time wasters early on if you are looking for something long term.

My sister has been married for years and met her now husband at a mutual friends wedding. She laid him within a few hours of meeting.

Blimey I feel a bit of a pride now .... I think it was at least 3 months maybe longer for me . We're still together 5 years on but to be fair I'd been married 26 years and was shit scared of looking at my own body never mind traumatising someone else !

I don’t buy into the whole waiting thing personally
If you want to and feel it , do it
I’m in my 40s, sod it

would usually say no until the second or third but like many others with my DP first date only a few hours after meeting. we just had real and still do have chemistry between us

For most dates it's usually about the third date.

My quickest in what turned out to be a long term relationship (2 1/2years) was just under two hours.

Man speaking: when my first and I met she jumped me within an hour of a party finishing. Married after about 18 months and lasted over 25 years

Depends how horny I am! I find waiting very difficult if I want something and it's on offer...

Third date here too

There isn't really a 'usually' for me - I think with dh it was third date, current bf just about held out till the second date, one boyfriend it was 4 weeks or so of seeing each other a lot, and I've had loads of ONSs. I don't really count any more, it's more about opportunity.

My first was nearly 8 weeks but I was a virgin and determined I wasn't going to be just a shag. He was a little older, understood and when we DTD it was lovely and I really enjoyed it. A lot of that was he was experienced and really knew how to take his time.

Since then it was a lot shorter but always at least several dates. Never had a ONS as I refused to be used and risk being ghosted. It was an approach that worked well and had several meaningful relationships prior to meeting DH

It was our first date and just happened naturally, still together now three years later, lol.

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Second date with me and OH. It felt right and it was amazing. Still together after 10 years.

same for me but it is now 20 years together and 18 years married and still in love. We still mention our second date.

Never before third date - I want my man to put the effort in!

Usually first. Probably explains why none of my relationships last

Third date and been together 39 years and still very happy