Annoyed

[LOTTIE881]

Last week in bed i wasn’t tired and asked my OH if I could give him a blow job. I absolutely love giving them and he knows this. He said ‘no’ ‘I’m not really fussed by blow jobs’. Well this is news to me, we’ve been together 11 years and whilst he doesn’t really instigate them he knows I love giving them.

I feel really embarrassed / hurt / annoyed and a bit ashamed that for 11 years he’s not voiced this. I’d like to say I’ve had compliments from all previous partners so cannot think it’s to do with my technique. He’s so uninterested in being touched, kissed anywhere other than the lips or general messing about and isn’t really affectionate - never has been whereas I crave intimacy and touch. I guess it’s silly to be annoyed but it keeps playing over in my head. I want to bring it up with him but no idea what to say. I can’t imagine never doing it again for the rest of my life and now I don’t want to do it knowing that he’s told me it does nothing for him (yet he always finishes - quickly). Sorry I guess I just needed to rant

Well I have read about some men on here that don't like BJ but frankly I have never experienced it, and from tipsy girlie catch ups with mates I know their blokes all like as well. So it is possible...but really after 11 years? Not sure what's worse, him being deceitful for 11 years or suspecting he is up to something.

Frankly OP me doing to my DH what you wanted is his utter delight, especially when I go all the way and swallow as well

I guess he's within his rights to turn it down if he's not in the mood... Try not to overthink it

Getting casually offered a blowjob though, the stuff of dreams haha

Yeah I’d agree not to overthink it

Also agree that it’s the stuff of dreams haha

I suspect what he meant was "I'm not really fussed about BJs... right now" I highly doubt he's hated your blow jobs for 11 years!

Talk to him. Ask him if he doesn't want you to do that again. Tell him you're upset at being rejected. By second-guessing what he's thinking, you'll just make yourself increasingly insecure.

Straight Male mid-40’s here - I’m not fussed either

He’s so uninterested in being touched, kissed anywhere other than the lips or general messing about and isn’t really affectionate - never has been whereas I crave intimacy and touch.

That must be so draining. It sounds like it's finally got to the point where someone with very low sex drive (him) has got tired of making an effort for someone with high sex drive (you)

I'd have to leave, I couldn't live without giving and receiving oral.