Ideas for me? Boyfriend in pain

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Looking for ideas on how a boyfriend with painful joints can pleasure me. His hips hurt, his hands hurt. Everywhere, elbows, back, neck ...

We've only been together a year and relationship is good, but the sex is not. He is on medication that makes it just about impossible to get an erection so in the earlier days of our relationship we used mouths and hands on each other but now he hurts more he can't do oral on me properly and can't keep going very long with his fingers.

Now I get him to hold and fondle me while I finish the job but it would be nice if he could do it all in some way. I use a little vibe myself but if it goes in the wrong place at the wrong speed it hurts. So I don't particularly want to let him loose with it. He has always avoided using this sort of extra, preferring to feel and taste but I'm persuading him that power tools are the answer. We don't mess our wrists up if we have a power screwdriver, do we?

So folks. Any ideas about what be nice for him to use on me? I've seen things to fix on to one's partner's fingers to make them vibrate, anyone tried that? Or the direct clitoral stimulators? Can I have the nity gritty? Do you hold them in place? If so, is that all the operator has to do?

Of course, I'm not going to push for this if he hurts too much, but he's OK usually to appreciate a BJ and would be happier to return the compliment.

Thanks

What about a remote control vibrator that you can give him the controls?

Thanks, that's an idea.

A swing..? Then he can pull you onto him rather than having to thrust...

How about a dildo and thigh harness (worn by him)? It can worn used when he's led or sat down Allows you both to use your hands /toys on each other, maintain eye contact, good visuals for for him and hopefully feels good for you!

Could you try sitting on his face? That way all he has to do is lie back and move his tongue and you can control all the depth/positioning?

Thanks, some good ideas for me to broach with him. I think face sitting would be what he'd be ost comfortable with to start with. Got to say, I like the idea of a thigh harness with dildo and a swing but might need to tread gently here.

My boyfriend has chronic back pain and we are only six months into a relationship. We used to talk dirty on the phone for months before we slept together and i fully expected we'd be at it like rabbits. I was planning on jumping him in the hallway and everything.

We had sex about 8 times in the first two months in different positions. He went down on me twice. Then his back flared up and the Dr gave him amitriptyline. He now falls asleep at 7pm and I don't think we've had full sex for 2 months. He has used his fingers on me q dew times but

It's not the same as being able to have full sex. I struggle with the fact I can't just pull him.on top of me or we can't move into different positions. I am quite frustrated by it but I'm bring patient. I just don't try it on with him now as I fear him being uncomfortable.

Bad back are with you for life, so I’d move on.