Single and sex drive through the roof..

[loonietune]

I was in a relationship for almost 4 years and I really didn't want sex with him for many reasons (I thought it was perimenopausal but it really wasn't). He was nasty to me and made me cry frequently (huge turn off, no one wants to be intimate with someone who makes you feel worthless), his 'personal' hygiene wasn't appealing and also it was all about him, what he'd seen in a porno he wanted to recreate, all about what he wanted, what his fantasies were, never about me, I could have been a sex doll and it would made no difference to him....

Anyway, so we split up months ago and my sex drive is through the roof... I'm not one to just sleep with anyone (although I have revisited an ex from years ago since and that was pretty amazing)... but I don't know what to do...I'm climbing the walls....

Advice welcome :)

How old are you? Sounds like the sex surge of menopause if you’re around that age. Happened to me and it lasted a good 6 months and still not back to pre-menopause levels.
He sounds awful btw. Glad he’s gone.
Get dating! You might find a wonderful guy to satisfy you 😀

@CosmicUnicorn

I am 46.... x

I was 45.
Have your periods stopped or been erratic? Mine stopped suddenly and then sex drive went crazy 3 months later. I didn’t know it was menopause at the time. It was only when I developed further symptoms further down the line that I realised it was menopause (hot flushes, low tolerance of certain people, anxiety).

It’s time to revisit that ex from years ago and summon a few friends. Enjoy! This is not a problem it is a renaissance.

You have a new beginning go and make the best of life to the full. Many would envy your status.

You are free at last go for it!

Tinder
And good luck to you 😁
But it’s a place to start

I don’t think it’s even age related
It’s being single and sexual
I never wanted to fuck my ex either !

He lives too far away, otherwise he would be the ideal candidate...

@loonietune - Any dating site can be used for casual encounters. Make it clear what you are looking for, and you will be spoilt for choice!

Another vote for FabSwingers. You can stay hidden, and have a look around. As PP said, set your filters wisely...

Alternatively, try Killing Kittens - it's female led, and might suit you better.

Whatever you choose, watch out for cheaters, dreamers and timewasters... oh and be prepared for dick pics!

@AverageGuy
I actually joined Fab the other day to see what would happen! I got loads and loads of messages! None of them caught my attention! I deleted the account. It’d be quite a fantasy to have a ‘friend’ to have a good time with though .

@AverageGuy I didn’t use my real name btw