Body Confidence during Sex!

[Bodyconfidence]

My marriage has recently ended, towards the end sex wasn’t really happening. I’d like to start having sex again, casually for now. However, I am self-conscious about my boobs, I have a good figure and am very slim but after my pregnancies and breastfeeding and losing the weight quite quickly, they are now quite small and I now feel this is going to affect my confidence during sex.
How do I deal with this, be honest with the person about it?
I did consider cosmetic surgery but really it’s not something I really want to do.

TIA

Have no fears about your breasts, small breasts are just as exciting to kiss & fondle as larger ones. I once had a lover with no breast tissue at all, just two beautiful nipples on her chest, she was beautiful in every way, her smile, personality,red hair, skinny legs.

I think if they fancy you they're only going to fancy you more naked and not going to be put off by any imperfections. Half the time they probably don't even realise that you're hung up about that body part. No one expects complete perfection and if they do, they're shallow.

Most men care not a jot about how big/small your boobs are. We're just eternally grateful we get to be naked with you and do stuff. Honestly, it's just not an issue for us.

I understand how hard it is to feel sexy when only big breasts are glorified in the media, internet etc.

I have recently realised that I just need to almost pretend to be confident and ignore the critical voice in my head...the new (post separation) me does it in broad daylight for example and I no longer try to cover myself up like I used to.

I make a conscious effort to believe a partner who says he enjoys seeing and playing with my body; why would he lie?

This has made me more relaxed, and therefore I orgasm more easily. I think this attitude has been a real turn on for the men which in turn has made me feel sexy and this just feeds on itself. I'm having the most wonderful time!

Oh and even if the thought pops into my head, I push it away and make myself not point out the body parts I'm unhappy with. I have a feeling this negativity would not be conducive to good sex!

Op since my marriage ended I have had quite a few casual encounters.
I absolutely hate my breasts because one didn't grow I had to have an implant at 18 . And at mid 40s it is now starting to deflate somewhat but they have always been wonky looking to say the least, nipples look in different directions etc. Never have I ever had a man mention it and they have always had fun and come back for more. So please don't worry what you see about yourself is not what anyone else will see.

@Bodyconfidence
If a man is lucky enough to be at the stage where you are naked with him, he really won't care...

He will be just as worried if he's big enough, can last, will make you cum etc etc etc..

Just relax, and enjoy it!

LetsGoToTheHills has a fantastic way of viewing body confidence - it's that old 'fake it until you can make it' advice in a slightly different form. Men adore women who are happy with their bodies, whatever 'imperfections' they might feel troubled by. I honestly do not see what some women might regard as a problem; I just see a woman who presumes that I will find her irresistible, because she has spirit.

When I was ready for a sex life post divorce, I was initially very self conscious about my post dc body. A took friend's advice to buy lingerie that I felt sexy in, covered up my tummy which I was most conscious about. Really did help at the beginning, but once I accepted I'm not a supermodel and nor were the men I was sleeping with, i ditched the lingerie and found my confidence.

Man here..my oh is slim...small boobs....She breastfed. She has stretch marks. She is utterly divinely beautiful as she is. Fab bum, gorgeous face, magnificent soft boobs with yes, a bit of delicious sag. Life changes everyone physically. I have scars from a major op, not much hair!
Any good man fortunate enough to be invited into your bed will be utterly delighted...believe me! Personally...do not even think about surgery...I imagine you mean a boob job. Natural breasts are beautiful. I'd prefer natural over enhanced every time...and operations are not risk free!!! Be confident that a genuine man will love you for who you are And not what you look like.