How to make him want me again

[hellosunshineagainx]

Have a two year old, sex life hasn't been great since I was pregnant. I want sex but partner hardly ever does, says he is tired etc but looking on internet history he watches porn when I am working in the evenings (freelancer) or if I am out.

I am feeling really unsexy and undesirable, I have put on weight but he says he still finds me attractive. I'm slowly losing weight but the porn he looks at are often women around my size so not sure it's that.

Our relationship is really good other than the sex bit, plenty of other affection, always telling me he loves me etc and good communication, we have talked about the sex issue multiple times and it gets better for a couple of weeks then goes stale again.

Pre-kid sex was a big part of our life, we had been together 9 years before having a baby and it was just as good as the day we met.

Sorry bit of a brain dump here I just don't know what I can do to make myself desirable again?

I am sure you are desirable, don't worry about that. It's just the easy option for him to have a wank 🤷‍♀️ he doesn't have to think about pleasing you, or put any effort into making you happy. It's just a quick release and then it's over and done with. Maybe he's got a lot on his mind, maybe HE is feeling undesirable, and that's why he's not approaching you. Can you try kissing him with it not leading to sex, and then go from there? Make him feel wanted, rather than just making it all about the sex (or lack of). You just need to find a way to reconnect on that level, and then once you've found that, you'll both want it more and more.
Good luck 😊