Masturbation

[Ambersand]

Aibu to ask how often people masturbate? I know this might sound creepy so my apologies and please ignore if it is. I had a difficult childhood and didn't masturbate at all in my teenage years. I finally learnt how to do it in my 20s. I'm now in my 40s and I masturbate a few times a month, usually around ovulation. I have no other sexual activity. Does this mean I have a low sex drive, average or high? I literally have no idea what is typical and can't find a way to figure this out.

There is no typical. We are all different. Just you do you.

Evening, everyone. We've moved this over to our sex topic now as we felt it might sit better here.

Maybe about 5 times a week. I think it can enhance sex as well if I do it before as orgasms happen more easily if I've already came. It could mean you have a low sex drive if you don't get the urge to do it often but it might not. It doesn't really matter as long as you're doing what you need to do to suit yourself.

I would say that it has nothing to do with sex drive. You could look up responsive desire and given that you are on you own it may fit. In other words something has to happen for you to respond to it, which at the moment it isn't. I have a responsive desire and rarely initiate but this does not mean I have a low drive or libido. When my DH sets 'the wheels in motion' I am full steam ahead. For years I thought it was my sex drive then I read all about responsive desire and found that was me. Good luck

I'm single and as I have bipolar it can go through occasional phases of being more, but usually once or twice a week.

It sounds like you get quite horny around ovulation. Obviously you would need to be extra careful with contraception if you took a lover, unless you both were ok with the possibiliity of pregnancy.

I don't think there's any 'wrong' level of libido personally usually, unless the person themselves isn't happy with it or it's having some negative impact on their lives.

Like I don't like being ultra-horny as it can lead to me getting involved with dodgy blokes I wouldn't otherwise go near.

Usually about once or twice a day but it does vary.

It’s a very different need to 1:1 sex and one does not impact on the other.

I imagine the sex board isn't really representative @Ambersand , as a lot of people on here are more into sex than the average person.

Most women (admit to) masturbating about twice a week. www.bustle.com/wellness/how-often-do-women-masturbate

I could be wrong but I imagine most women with an ok sex life with a partner don't feel the need to do it as often (I know it's not the same as actual sex with someone else, but actual sex could scratch that iitch of the person's libido, so they don't feel the need to masturbate as often.)

When figures are quoted, l always think nobody came up to me in the street and asked me. And if they did they would get short changed!

For me, masturbation doesn't really impact on sex. If something turns me on I'll masturbate over it but I still have good sex with my husband most nights where I am able to cum a few times. I like just using a toy sometimes just cos it's so fast.

I’m single and when kids were away and I was sexting , daily
Now kids are back , weekends
There is no normal norm really ?

For me it tends to be when I have sex with DH - it is part of our foreplay. I find that I can do a better job at physically arousing myself than DH and he masturbates whilst I do it. I like to cum before intercourse and then he quickly gets inside and usually I have another climax before he cums. It is a routine we seem to have got into and we both enjoy it. Occasionally, he cums before we get to the intercourse stage and that can be a bit of a let down for me because I just stop and game over

I first masturbated when I was 17…..I’m now about to turn 40 and I do it frequently - I have done for the last 23 years It doesn’t matter whether I have a partner or not, in both situations I would do it about 4 times a week.

I suppose when I was single I would do it more often than that, but the amount of times doesn’t reduce just because I have a partner.

Sex is amazing….but so is masturbation.

Sex is great for intimacy whereas masturbation is great for fantasising.

Both are of equal importance to me

I have a very low sex drive but I masturbate about twice a week. Of course there a weeks where it maybe a couple times more and some weeks where I don’t even think about it

I have a pretty high sex drive and masturbate most days. I get great pleasure from this and often have edging sessions without orgasm. I just enjoy being hard and like to experiment with different toys and items to enhance the experience. I sometimes have a w**k where I try to play all day but stop short of orgasm until I cannot last any longer at this point the orgasm will explode.

Literally. Sounds that that's exactly what the OP IS doing 😇