Am I getting there?

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I have never had a vaginal orgasm but I am pretty sure I always have clitoral orgasms.

When my partner gives me oral down there it can take a while but it's the only way I can feel real pleasure.

I have to tell him to change position and speed up, slow down etc but eventually everything suddenly feels warm, like a build up of tension that releases and then just feels lovely but leaves me feeling sensitive.

After a few seconds I can go again and on some nights I can experience this upto 10-15 times one after the other.

I feel exhausted but relaxed afterwards.

Is this what an orgasm is? Is this what other people experience?

To be honest no I don't think this is an orgasm. It's absolutely unmistakable and very intense. Vaginal orgasms for me can be less intense than clitoral but it's the same kind of feeling. I think if you're asking if you've had an orgasm, then you haven't had one yet. But it sounds like you're on the right track. I suggest masturbating whilst alone or using a vibrator, it may take a while to find one that works for you but it's so worth it.

Irgasm- the building of pleasurable sensation to an almost unbearably intense and pleasurable peak, which discharges in several rythmic pulsations, which gradually reduce leaving on feeling totally relaxed and feeling lovely.

Orgasm not irgasm

If you feel your vagina involuntary pulsate or squeeze when you get this feeling then it’s an orgasm. Sometimes when I’m with a partner I’m not aware of that happening because it’s more intense. I can definitely tell when I’m solo. Spend some time doing it to yourself and experimenting

It sounds like an orgasm to me and if you can experience it ten or fifteen times then that's great.

But not all orgasms are equal, every woman has some that are less intense than others I think.

Even if this is an orgasm you could be able to experience more intense ones.

You could try different types of vibrator on yourself (I like Magic Wand style ones, but some people like a Womaniser type or others.) Once you've experienced more intense orgasms by yourself, you'll probably be able to have them during sex, or your partner could use the toy on you.

Have fun. :)

Thanks for replies!

There's a throbbing sensation, and I can feel it coming gradually. The pressure and speed has got to be just right or it won't happen.

I guess I was just wondering if I can have this feeling so many times in one session, is this actually an orgasm?! it feels lovely either way!

Sounds like orgasms to me 😊

guess I was just wondering if I can have this feeling so many times in one session, is this actually an orgasm?!

Yes you can, unless some of the early rushes are less intense and then they build up to a stronger one, which is your actual orgasm(s) starting.

Sounds like you're just really lucky with your body and what it can do.

I think what makes me wonder too is that I can only hold onto it for a few seconds.

I become so sensitive I have to have a break for a few seconds then go again.

Once I've had the first, which can take a good 10-15 minutes to happen, it gets easier and much faster for the ones after with just seconds between.

Wondering if I should be pushing through the sensitive feeling for something more to happen or if I'm already there

I suppose what really matters is that it feels good and you're satisfied.

Yes it often does feel sensitive after- just do what you need to do to be comfortable.

I don't think pushing through is the answer, but perhaps having some stimulation which is gentler or less direct afterwards.

It sounds like you're almost there but not reaching the full climax to tip you over the edge. Orgasms can vary with how intense they are but are still the same feeling. When you feel it start just keep going or increase pressure and pace, whatever feels good for you. In my experience if you learn to make yourself cum with no distractions, it makes it easier to orgasm with a partner.