Swingers Club

[AnotherMalbecPlease]

I'm off for my first visit to a Swingers Club soon - feeling excited and a bit scared. What can I expect? What should I wear? Help!!

Depends on the club really
Usually something sexy
Are you going with a partner?
Rules agreed?(very important)
Do you know anyone there?
Think carefully what you want to do have mental boundaries set before and don’t cross
Be safe
I have been to a few feel free to ask anything

I'm going with a FWB - what is sexy clothing? I'm not one for OTT clothing - was just going to wear a classic little black dress with hold ups. He has been to several as a t-girl but has no experience of going as part of a couple - we haven't discussed any rules yet but will. No idea if we'll know anyone there - it's quite close to home !! Our relationship is casual so don't think of us as a couple but we are very good friends - long before the benefits happened. I'm normally body confident but this is giving me the frights - think it'll be full of gorgeous young things and I'm in my 60s - he's 14 years younger.

It won't be all wall to wall heaving buttocks. There'll probably be a bar area/seating bit with general party type chatting going on. Stay there and wonder about for a look around if and when you're comfortable doing so. You might get offers, but not pressure to get up to naughtiness.

LBD and hold ups sounds perfect. Wear what you are comfortable in and what makes you feel sexy.

Good luck and please tell us how it went?

And don't forget that most of the other people there would have been thinking exactly the same things when they first went.

Underwear/ lingerie that makes you feel sexy and confident. Little black dress is perfect. Clutch bag (or wristband) with condoms, lube, wipes and breath mints.

Just have a drink and chat to people first to get to know the lay (!) of the land. You shouldn't feel pressurised to do anything unless you want to.

Don't get drunk no matter how nervous you feel. Consent and alcohol don't mix well.

Relax and have fun!

Thanks all - it is this Saturday so Hallowe'en as well - got some spooky tights and a pair of devils ears - that my nod to it - eek looking forward to it but .... I know my partner will look after me though

@AnotherMalbecPlease - "I know my partner will look after me though"
That's ^really" important! Make sure he does!

As PinotPony says, don't jump into anything you aren't comfortable with. Talk about what you might be looking for before you go. Maybe arrange some sort of mutual signals for "yes" and "no".

A single guy will be easy to find (not necessarily the right type of single guy!), but four way chemistry with another couple is much much harder...

Even if you just "play" with each other in a different setting, I'm sure you will have fun! Enjoy!

Find out in advance if it's dress down on entry (I can think of be club in Manchester that is). That means straight down to your lingerie.

Have a great time. Wear anything that you are confident in. Put some sexy lingerie on underneath. If the mood takes you you may want to strip down.

Not sure if there will be single men there as it's a couples thing - I'll go with flow and see what happens - will let you know how it goes

Last night was fun - not at all what I expected - friendly people - I felt comfortable from the start - can't wait to go again !!

That's nice to hear. Glad it was a positive experience.

Most people I've spoken to that have gone for the first time, didn't get what they expected. Lol.

Gentemanjay - lol - I wasn't expecting to do anything but ended up having some fun with my partner

Some clubs do insist on dress down immediately so lingerie for women and towels for guys. In my experience they are full of not that attractive middle aged couples,a few peacocks(gym bunnies only there to be admired) and hoardes of desperate single men,the wanking dead.