Blow job after intercourse

[Scottishmummy41]

Hi
I’ve been a long term lurker on mumsnet but this is the first time I have posted - please be kind 😊

I’ve been married for 12 years and we have had ok sex over the years. Recently we have both realised the spark isn’t there at all anymore so have been trying different things.

This morning we had sex (no condom needed) and I came but my husband didn’t.
As soon as he pulled out he wanted me to give him a blow job. I thought I was happy to do this but as soon as I started , the taste and warmth of his penis (having my cum all over it) made me gag and I ran to the bathroom to be sick.

I was mortified and he felt terrible. I’m just wondering why I reacted like this and if this is something most woman are ok with/enjoy doing? I didn’t realise how much I’d hate it until I was actually doing it 😳

There is no “most women would enjoy” I don’t think! I can’t give my dh a blow job unless he’s freshly showered, it’s just not for me. (I don’t like him to give me oral unless I’m clean and fresh too, so not a double standard!) can you try a flavoured condom next time? They work for us!

@Thehop

There is no “most women would enjoy” I don’t think! I can’t give my dh a blow job unless he’s freshly showered, it’s just not for me. (I don’t like him to give me oral unless I’m clean and fresh too, so not a double standard!) can you try a flavoured condom next time? They work for us!

Thanks Thehop. I just wasn’t sure if I totally overreacted, or why I did. I’m glad that me not comfortable with it isn’t totally abnormal. We don’t use condoms at all as he has had a vasectomy. Otherwise that would be an idea x

I'm same as @TheHop. I wouldn't expect a BJ if he wasn't 100% clean and fresh - certainly if we'd just done PIV. Same as I wouldn't go down on a woman if I'd cum inside her.

Vasectomy or not, honestly, flavoured condoms make it so much better sometimes! It’s quite interesting 😂

Can you not have PIV with a condom and when he pulls out, you can take the condom off and give him a BJ, or a hand job to finish him off?

I guess we all enjoy different things Mrs F is happy to bj if I have not come just playing around etc as I am happy to give her oral if I have been inside (before cuming) each to there own
If you don’t like your taste maybe a wipe? Before or a really good hand job? Olive oil works great ( can be amazing/totally mind blowing) and no sore jaw !

I don't mind giving a BJ after they've been inside me but it's such a personal thing, if you don't like it there is no need to do it. There are lots of other options available to try so do what makes you both happy.

I'm happy giving or receiving oral before or after PIV sex. Does that make me abnormal? (Don't answer that!)
Seriously though, gagging and vomiting aren't conscious reactions, so no, you must blame yourself.
How was your husband after this? Was he sympathetic?

Thanks for all the replies.
I think the thing he likes is me tasting my own cum whilst giving him a blow job if that makes sense. So condom first wouldn’t really work.

He felt terrible after my reaction and kept apologising - he’d never want me to do something I’m not comfortable with. I was just shocked at my reaction and then felt like I was being a bit of a prude … in my head I am totally up for it but in reality I just wasn’t.

That always happens for me with things to do with sex - I think about/fantasise about doing certain things but when it comes to the reality i just don’t manage and revert back to ‘ok’ sex.

I know there are other things we can do , I just think he won’t want to ask for anything now 😞

@Scottishmummy41 It wasn’t clear that he wanted you to give him a BJ to taste your own cum, it came across that he was unable to cum, so he asked you to finish him off. Not everyone would want to give a BJ after he had been inside, so only do what you’re comfortable doing.

OP, l’m sorry to hear this, there can be few things worse at a moment of passion.

Assuming you practice good hygiene, I’m equally puzzled as to why it should have happened. I would have thought most of us are familiar with the taste of ourselves and our partner(s) from kissing etc during sex. I’m certainly not a stranger to what l taste like.

Clearly this one is best avoided for you.

I find that every now again the taste of one's foof can vary, possibly due to a change in PH balance and I have also had the boke on a few occasions.
I find that a soft hamshank before the main event usually gets rid of any excess juice and blends into a passionate display.

Sorry, I didn’t mean to be unclear.

Not even sure why I’m listing. Think I was just shocked at my reaction and now overthinking and scared to try anything new.

@StarlightLady

OP, l’m sorry to hear this, there can be few things worse at a moment of passion.

Assuming you practice good hygiene, I’m equally puzzled as to why it should have happened. I would have thought most of us are familiar with the taste of ourselves and our partner(s) from kissing etc during sex. I’m certainly not a stranger to what l taste like.

Clearly this one is best avoided for you.

I’m comfortable kissing my partner after he’s been down on me but not licking my cum off his entire penis. I think there’s a difference between the two.

Yeah, I’ve never had any problems kissing him after he has been down on me.
Think it was probably just one of those things and I’m now over thinking it and making it worse as now, when we’ve had sex (yesterday and today) I just can’t get into it at all.

All a bit rubbish but hopefully it will work itself out

It’s a turn on for me (BJ after PIV) - but so is a deep kiss after I’ve received a BJ. Each to their own I guess - only do what turns you on, never as an obligation

It’s not a turn on for me. So I don’t do it.