What motivates you?

[Estherpologist]

A couple of recent threads got me thinking about what motivates us to have sex.
Do you enjoy sex for your own pleasure, or your partner's?
I'm struggling with the idea of having sex with someone who got no direct pleasure from sex, even if they were willingly doing it for my benefit. They would at least need to actively enjoy giving me pleasure. And I can't imagine not enjoying giving them pleasure even if I didn't feel physically pleasure.
A lot of my motivation is about the intimacy and connection, but I really love just getting fucked just for my pleasure as much as I love giving pleasure.
Discuss.

It’s the shared passion. It feels nice and l enjoy the signals that the other person is enjoying it.

I've previously posted that, as a more mature guy, I recognise that I have a longer recovery time than previously, so I make an effort to provide pleasure for my partner, and I derive a huge amount of pleasure giving her pleasure.

I enjoy long sensual, sexual encounters - touching, teasing, experimenting, exploring, pleasuring, being plasured ... I also enjoy a good hard fuck

Sex is a mutual enjoyment, a shared pleasure between two, or at least it should be. I enjoy pleasuring and receiving pleasure, it does help with connection and intimacy and I don’t think many relationships would work long term without sex.
Sometimes I’m just really horny and want him to fuck my brains out, which in that case it’s purely about pleasure.

I think it depends. Sometimes it's about closeness, sometimes it's just having a good hard fuck, sometimes it's about being selfish. It depends on my mood I guess and also on his.

I think the pleasure has to be mutual to get the best from it. I wouldn't want to do it if I didn't get pleasure and wouldn't want someone to feel obligated just to keep me happy.

It's a mutual thing. For my own pleasure so I can orgasm and for my husband. I love him and he's gorgeous so I like to give him pleasure. It brings us together and is something special to be shared between us. George Harrison inspires me to masturbate.