Going soft part way through

[Sproglets]

I've just started seeing a new partner and am after some genuine thiughts/advice. The sex is mostly great he really knows what he's doing and spends a lot of time focusing on me but often goes soft part way through and gets a bit frustrated by this. I can get him hard again without too much trouble but it happens whilst I'm going down on him or when we're doing the deed itself. I've not been able to get him to orgasm yet, although have been close before he loses his erection again and he's always needed to use his own hand.
Any tips to help things?
I'm trying not to make a thing of it, as I'm sure this will only make things worse but would like to be able to bring him to climax myself.

Is he around 50?

Yeah, a bit over 50, he does seem quite embarrassed and says this doesn't usually happen (but I think he would say that). Apparently he never has a problem when he's own. I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to help.

Abstain from sex for a few days...and make sure he doesn't masturbate in the mean time...he should be raging and find it easy to orgasm then. I do and I'm 57 (nearly) If loss of erection is down to confidence...it probably is if he has no underlying medical conditions....then a low dose viagra will keep him hard till he cums.

It is perfectly normal to have erection problems in the early stages of a sexual relationship due to a degree of performance anxiety. It is something I have had myself.

You are right to make no big deal of it. As another poster has mentioned, try some chemical assistance and see whether that cures it.

Best wishes.

At 50 it could be a host of underlying medical issues starting become prevalent. He might need a once over from the docs when he can get an appointment, probably about June next

I have some experience of this with a partner. Unable to orgasm largely due to masturbation technique not mirroring what happens during sex. If he refrained it is usually fine.
Maintaining an erection is very frustrating for him so he is using medication. The problem seems to be that it only works for 4 hours so if we have sex then go to dinner and try to be spontaneous later, it doesn’t always happen. We also have all day sessions and that greatly frustrates him because he wants to be able to continue but it doesn’t happen

I don’t know what the solution is for us either