Newly separated / FWB

[sexstarved]

Hi,

I am newly separated. As in he moved out a week ago. It was a sexless marriage and my sexual needs have gone unmet for so long that it is all I think about. This was the main reason for our split.

A friend of mine has made it clear to me that he is happy to meet my sexual requirements. I am absolutely desperate to feel sexually wanted by a man and to have him f**k me senseless but a small part of me feels terrible for my husband even though we have split.

If I do this am I a terrible person?

No , got for it.

No, you no longer live together and are separated, life is too short, you’re as entitled to a sex life, as anybody else.
Enjoy yourself 💃

Well as long as he is properly "gone" and isn't hanging around etc as otherwise it will cause other issues.

However, yes go for it. Just be aware that your friend will be different from then on and there isn't any going back once you have slept together

Absolutely go for it. You have nothing to feel guilty for, you’ve lived a life of celibacy for long enough and now it’s time to get back on the horse so to speak.

You go girl. If you do this you are not a terrible person you are a lovely person with needs.

Is your friend also your ex's friend?
Will news get to your ex, and are you in any way hoping to maintain a civil relationship with your ex? There's nothing to be gained from rubbing his nose in it. (Your ex ... not your FWB. There might be a very good reason to rub his nose in it.🤪)

Yes, go for it.

I have two FWBs and my wife and I also have two Couples with benefits and it's great.

It's about you and not your ex so go get fucked senseless as you put it and make it a regular thing and not just a one one. Lose yourself thoroughly.

Leave him breathless too and thoroughly enjoy every last minute of it all.

The dynamic has changed, You are no longer part of a couple. You may not have been even when living together because, if I understand correctly, he had disconnected from you.

Therefore that gives you permission, if you need it, to change to looking out for yourself. Which means that you have nothing to feel guilty about.

@Estherpologist no, my ex doesn't know this guy. He is more an acquaintance of mine rather than a close friend and there is no reason for their paths to ever cross so no rubbing his nose in it.

Thank you all for your support, I will go get me some and not feel the slightest bit guilty

[quote sexstarved]@Estherpologist no, my ex doesn't know this guy. He is more an acquaintance of mine rather than a close friend and there is no reason for their paths to ever cross so no rubbing his nose in it.

Thank you all for your support, I will go get me some and not feel the slightest bit guilty [/quote]
Great news.

Maybe you'll be able to change your username :-)

[quote sexstarved]@Estherpologist no, my ex doesn't know this guy. He is more an acquaintance of mine rather than a close friend and there is no reason for their paths to ever cross so no rubbing his nose in it.

Thank you all for your support, I will go get me some and not feel the slightest bit guilty [/quote]
Then you go girl!
I hope its utterly senseless. 😁

So I thought it would be rude not to update.

After all your sound advice, I met up with my friend and it was fantastic. It has put a smile back on my face and lifted my spirits so much. Amazing what a good session in the sheets can do your your mental health and well-being

Brilliant OP. Long may it continue.

Ahhh. That's great. Good sex is the best free, legal drug I know.

@sexstarved

So I thought it would be rude not to update.

After all your sound advice, I met up with my friend and it was fantastic. It has put a smile back on my face and lifted my spirits so much. Amazing what a good session in the sheets can do your your mental health and well-being

Great news.

I'm happy for you.

Maybe you'll have to change your username?

@sexstarved Glad it went well and most of all, you enjoyed yourself

So pleased for you.