To wait or not to wait

[Alanis41]

Hello all,

I'm used to relationships and waiting. Met someone recently and thought fuck it, I'm going to have some fun. But now feeling a bit weird as the guilt is creeping up on me. Should I have waited? He wants to meet again.

I don't think you've given us enough to go on.
In principal, I can't think of a good reason not to have fun as soon as you want to. So no.

Wait for what exactly? Wait how long? Do you think it will make it feel nicer?

Was the sex good? If so then just go for it gal.

We didn't go all the way but it was crazily great with what we did but I have never done sex on a first date because I worry stupidly that it makes me look bad. He's desperate to do it again. It's made me enjoy sex for once. Usually I'm disappointed.

Forget what others think. Sex is about passion and chemistry! It is not about when is an acceptable time lapse.

You go girl! And purr!

One other word, condom!

We waited until our second date and the lady was worried that I'd not want to see her again as we had sex so soon after meeting.
We have now been married for over 17 years and it was a great way to start our lives together. I wish sex was as good now as it was then

Thank you all. I have never started anything on this level. He's very keen. I'm almost embarrassed that I let myself go like that.

I think it varies person to person - depending on how well they can handle the (potential) rejection/being used. It's hard to know if someone is genuinely interested in developing a relationship with you in the first meeting or just after 'a bit of fun'.

If you sleep with them taking the attitude of 'if it develops into something then great, but if it doesn't, then at least I got a shag out of it', then great, crack on. If getting ghosted afterwards will leave you an emotional wreck then it's probably better to delay sex until you're more confident that they're serious about you.

Personally I tend to get emotionally attached and caught up with the 'what is this/where is this going' thing!

@Eesha - Doesn’t that happen with or without sex being involved?

@StarlightLady yes I agree but I think personally I put a lot more emphasis on the bond created through sex. I've realised that isn't the best way as hasn't got me anywhere!