FWB Advice - location/logistics?

[Getbehindme]

Hello!

First potential foray into FWB territory. Its someone from Tinder, and we're discussing boundaries at present, needs and wants.

In terms of actual logistics - I'm not sure if coming to mine is the best idea, but I'm not sure what the alternative is?

Any advice would be helpful. Sorry, these threads probably come along all the time!

Er, it's called Travelodge

@Getbehindme I wouldn't follow @dogfishmans advice. A Travelodge would her pretty expensive over time but more importantly no safer than other places.

I don't know what your set up is but for me I met my potential FWB in a cafe a couple of times. I like to think I'm a pretty good judge of character so over messages/coffee we discussed what we wanted/boundaries etc. I invited them to my home and my good friend and neighbour was aware of what was happening. After that it was fine.

Do you have mutual friends/acquaintances etc?

Personally, you should get to know them well before inviting them into your house, I would be concerned if I didn’t know them enough and they turned nasty, they’d know where I lived, I’ve seen many stories about this before, stalking etc.
I would meet a few times in a public place to get to know each other and the first time you decide to have sex, maybe a hotel would be a good idea, when you feel comfortable with him being in your home, then you can make arrangements for that that to happen. I think as a female, safety is very important and although someone may seem genuine, you never always know their background.

I always meet in public places for the first few dates, it's an important safety thing but I also have to make sure the chemistry is there before taking it further.

I don't like the lack of privacy in hotels and I don't bring dates back to my house, ever. I prefer to book serviced short stay apartments, they're amazing for a night or two. I'm all about good sex and good food so having a proper kitchen is a must for me 😉

Well if you're meeting complete strangers with intention of finding a FwB, you probably want to meet them socially first of all, without any expectation of sex on the very first meeting. Otherwise you could easily find yourself with a TwB (tosser with benefits).
It's pretty risky to be having sex with someone that you don't know well enough to invite them to your home.

I always meet for a coffee chat in public to get to know the lady and never at either home until you really know them x

Agree, meeting in public first is advisable, whatever you decide to do next. If after that you still don't want them to know where you live / be seen by neighbours etc then hotels can help and aren't always expensive.

All my FWBs and our Couples with benefits are people I/we already knew.

I'd only recommend that like a first date meet in a café/pub and judge it from there.

A first date I once had had already booked a hotel nearby which we did then use but always take caution and go with any gut feeling that's saying it's not a good idea.

I can't remember what I was watching the other day but the lady telling the story said she was on a date, and they decided to hook up. They afford (or find?) a hotel room, so ended up booking a truck that you can hire from an app (usually for moving house). So maybe I'll keep that in my back pocket... although I'm not sure an electric scooter or Boris bike will help!