I am 44 my SO is 47 we have been together 3 years. At first our sex life was very good...we both were very into experimenting (he has had alot more partners than me) and although maybe we weren't having sex as often as I would like when we did it was good! So that was maybe the first 6 to 9 months and ever since then it's became less and less. He does suffer with PE and I know that causes him stress and embarrassment which I tell him is no issue I just want to be intimate whatever. Now whenever we are intimate it usually never involves penetrative and hardly ever oral and it makes me so sad and frustrated. I've brought this up many times and he just says "I hear you" it's like he has no sex drive whatsoever and mine is so it seems way more than his....also whenever we do get intimate it's usually me that's instigated it and I always end up feeling unsatisfied. I just want to have sex with him and for him to want me in that way and I feel he doesn't. We are so loving and touchy and close and I feel that it should be just a natural part of us but it's like he has a wall up...one that wasn't there when we first met and I miss it 😔