Sex with partner has changed!

[Whathappened3]

Whilst having sex recently, my partner has changed the way we’ve been doing things. For example, if he’s playing with my clit he’ll use more pressure, although I’ve told him many times in the past I prefer less pressure, when we was having sex it was quite rough, he also had hold of my hair on the top of my head and was grabbing and pulling it to the point it was hurting. Don’t get me wrong I don’t mind some gentle hair pulling, or more vigorous sex but this was just different.
After I just felt awful about it all!

you don't ask a specific question, but your handle suggests you want to know why this change has happened. I think perhaps you're asking the wrong question though. it doesn't really matter why it's changed - the problem is that he hasn't talked to you about it, has just done it, and you're clearly not happy about it - and he is going against things you have already been clear about not enjoying.

Could you partner be watching porn? I agree tho I think you need to have a conversation with your partner and discuss the changes. Especially if it hurts and you don't like it.

Sounds like hes got the idea from porn, sorry .

@wishfuldreamer - I don’t really know what my question is, I think I just needed to write it down.
Porn was my first thought. It’s just made me feel a bit disrespected, I know I’ll need to have a chat with him, I’m just not very good at being assertive at times.

Also think this sounds like porn. I never understand the attraction of all the rough type of porn that some appear to like - complete turn off for me!

If you've been clear you're uncomfortable with these new moves he ought to realise it's doing nothing for you, don't pretend you like it if you don't just to please him.

This is what I dislike about porn it portrays that women want sex rough and that’s how sex needs to be (I’m not saying all men do this!)
A while ago we tried a different position and it was uncomfortable for me, I told him and he said well let’s change angles etc, which we did and it still felt uncomfortable, then he got irritated by this. It’s really odd because he’s never been like this before, always respectful, I don’t know what’s changed.

He could have got this idea from anywhere really - porn, chatting to friends, a long term fantasy or a film. In some ways, it’s irrelevant where the idea has come from. The key issue for you is for you to tell him that you didn’t like it & you don’t want him to do it again. Could you have an open & honest conversation about what you like sexually? You could start by saying which parts of your sexlife you really enjoy and then say but I didn’t like it when… It’s important to have that difficult conversation sooner rather than later @Whathappened3