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I came from oral

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80sPadme · 09/09/2021 22:30

Only orgasmed with a partner a handful of times in my life ( I'm 35) Been with my DH for almost 2 years now and up until now I have struggled to orgasm. We tried lots of different ways and found that me playing with my clit while we had sex was the only thing that worked.
I don't usually let guys go down on me due to a bad experience with an ex making me feel I was 'dirty/weird' down there.
Well tonight he went down on me and I came- hard!!
I've been missing out for so long, why there'll didn't I do this sooner!?
No point to this really other than to say wow!!!

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AlCalavicci · 09/09/2021 23:02

Good init Grin

I very rarely orgasm with just sex , but if you your DP is good at oral my ^word*

namechanged1010 · 10/09/2021 03:55

Shame you had to wait too long. I look back and feel incredibly lucky that my first bf was a few years older, definitely very experienced and made my first time a lovely memorable experience which included him giving me the most mind blowing oral sex with a really deep and satisfying orgasm.

Compared to some friends fumbles with "lads" who hadn't a clue I feel privileged to have such a nice memory

Well done op

StarlightLady · 10/09/2021 06:34

💥 OP - That’s lovely!

Clearly you are going to be very busy now as you have a lot of catching up to do.

I’m sorry to hear of your past experiences, put it behind you.

I was once criticised on MN for saying that l would not have sex with someone who was not prepared to go down on me. Those in the know understand why.

Rosesareredd · 10/09/2021 09:10

Oh you lucky thing! I’ve never orgasmed through oral, only through sex with clit stimulation too.

Phlaps · 10/09/2021 13:24

Remember the huge sense of achievement the first time I managed (to give) in that way Grin

Aaah... to be at university again

Whatliesbeneath707 · 10/09/2021 21:25

Good for you @80sPadme. As @StarlightLady says, you’ve got an exciting time ahead as you catch up on all of those missed years 😉
And as @Phlaps (great username 🤣) says, it’s a great achievement for both sides.
Enjoy every minute!

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80sPadme · 10/09/2021 21:38

@Phlaps

Remember the huge sense of achievement the first time I managed (to give) in that way Grin

Aaah... to be at university again

Best name ever!!!!!
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80sPadme · 10/09/2021 21:39

I'm just gobsmacked that it happened, I guess when u are with the right person it just all happens as it does.
I feel very blessed to be able to experience it.

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Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 11/09/2021 00:30

@StarlightLady

💥 OP - That’s lovely!

Clearly you are going to be very busy now as you have a lot of catching up to do.

I’m sorry to hear of your past experiences, put it behind you.

I was once criticised on MN for saying that l would not have sex with someone who was not prepared to go down on me. Those in the know understand why.

Really? You've never mentioned it!

I'd be the same if I ever found myself single.

OrlandointheWilderness · 18/09/2021 14:36

God I had a 5 year relationship with a man who would barely touch my. Before that I had shit relationships with crap lovers.
My current bf not only adores giving oral, but is incredibly, INCREDIBLY good at it.
Fucking hellfire, all I've missed out on!!

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80sPadme · 20/09/2021 16:13

@OrlandointheWilderness

God I had a 5 year relationship with a man who would barely touch my. Before that I had shit relationships with crap lovers. My current bf not only adores giving oral, but is incredibly, INCREDIBLY good at it. Fucking hellfire, all I've missed out on!!
It's a real lightbulb moment
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HaggisBurger · 20/09/2021 16:50

I’m very jealous - have never come from oral. I think I get really self conscious that it takes ages and so move on as it were. Enjoy!

cosmicbabe · 21/09/2021 21:58

Ooh I can so relate to this! Until my now partner, no one has made me orgasm. My first one with him was via oral and it blew me away. Literally a different level isn't it. Enjoy!

SexEDHelp · 22/09/2021 19:44

@80sPadme I'm so pleased for you Smile

SexEDHelp · 22/09/2021 19:48

Posted too soon! Was going to say but envious too. I'd really really like to experience my first orgasm with a partner with my current DP. He's really into oral, as am I and he's really willing to spend time but I just can't seem to get out of my head enough even to get close. I love every second of him doing it but think I need a lot of really strong stimulation from toys in reality. I had hoped that my feelings for him, the fact that all the porn I watch is women orgasming from oral and his willingness and skill would get me there.

Any pointers on what's made the difference for you?

Btw he never puts me under pressure to orgasm and in the moment I'm not thinking about that consciously.

Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 22/09/2021 20:53

@SexEDHelp

Posted too soon! Was going to say but envious too. I'd really really like to experience my first orgasm with a partner with my current DP. He's really into oral, as am I and he's really willing to spend time but I just can't seem to get out of my head enough even to get close. I love every second of him doing it but think I need a lot of really strong stimulation from toys in reality. I had hoped that my feelings for him, the fact that all the porn I watch is women orgasming from oral and his willingness and skill would get me there.

Any pointers on what's made the difference for you?

Btw he never puts me under pressure to orgasm and in the moment I'm not thinking about that consciously.

Sounds like you could have the female equivalent of death grip.
2ManyDicksOnTheDancefloor · 22/09/2021 21:33

Try sitting on his face, you can get more pressure that way. Works in less than a minute for me!

Getbehindme · 22/09/2021 21:36

Surely that's not a thing? I feel like the female orgasm can be fickle but it's complex so I can't see 'death grip' equivalent being a thing? I'm no expert mind you.

@SexEDHelp I found sometimes covering my face with a pillow helped with feeling self consciousness and allowed me to zone out a bit. I used to worry my partner was getting tired or fed up and was in my head a bit. This just blocked it out a bit!

SexEDHelp · 22/09/2021 22:07

Thanks @Getbehindme I think I do have an issue about the length of time it takes and so there's a self consciousness in that perhaps but I'm not self conscious about actually having an orgasm with my partner.

I do think @Myotherusernamewastakenagain might have a point. I've been using toys and porn for a few years now and I do think I've got a combo of things that work and it doesn't involve a partner.

I'd just really love for it to happen and so the OP really resonated with me.

Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 22/09/2021 22:37

@Getbehindme

Surely that's not a thing? I feel like the female orgasm can be fickle but it's complex so I can't see 'death grip' equivalent being a thing? I'm no expert mind you.

@SexEDHelp I found sometimes covering my face with a pillow helped with feeling self consciousness and allowed me to zone out a bit. I used to worry my partner was getting tired or fed up and was in my head a bit. This just blocked it out a bit!

It's the go to response when a man can't orgasm and porn is involved, add in a history of sex toys then it looks more and more plausible.

I'd suggest laying off the porn and sex toys for a few weeks to see if it changes anything.

Mouse1007 · 23/09/2021 06:11

@80sPadme the best oral position ever is queening 😍 this is where you straddle his face and can control the pressure and the intensity. It’s absolutely the most erotic and sensual position. It really can deliver earth shattering orgasms. Your partner is also free to run his hand over your back, bum, tummy and breast etc. Spare a though for the neighbours 😂 let us know if you try it 😀

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80sPadme · 23/09/2021 10:05

Any pointers on what's made the difference for you

nothing in particular. We spent lots of time on foreplay, kissing, massaging etc before he went down on me and he took his time, he kept edging me there and then backing off slightly and when I did cum it was insane.

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PermanentTemporary · 23/09/2021 12:43

When I was working on being able to come a different way, I found that I was afraid of wetting the bed even though I'd never consciously thought that. I had my fingers inside myself and a bullet on the go, felt my pelvic floor drop with a big surge in pleasure, then automatically pulled my floor back up and stopped the pleasure. I recognised the sequence though had never had any conscious thoughts about it.

So I tried again with a towel underneath and having consciously understood what was going on, was able to orgasm a different way for the first time ever.

You might be afraid of wetting his face? A lot of men fantasise about that. An open conversation about it may help I guess.

DispicableMe · 23/09/2021 13:03

If you are both relaxed enough and enjoying it, Cumming from oral is a whole different level! I love making a woman cum from oral… it’s very arousing in my opinion!

StarlightLady · 24/09/2021 07:41

For those suggesting that sex toys could cause a problem, I’m early 40s and have been using vibies (very) regularly since my mid teens. I’ve never had any problems there.

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