I had my second child 8 weeks ago and feel tired and not up for sex at all. Physically, I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been (81kg), look like crap naked with my sagging belly and stretch marks and feel emotionally very drained.
DH is lovely and says he is attracted to me/is very affectionate/makes nice comments but I’m just not feeling it and don’t even want him to touch me. I feel like he is just saying it to boost my confidence and I don’t believe him. I know it sounds harsh, and I feel bad, but the thought of having sex is so draining and just feels like another thing to do. I miss the lazy mornings/weekends we used to have in bed together before we had kids and regret not having more sex then.
I’m not sure all of this is down to lack of sleep, because I’ve been lucky enough to get around 5-6 hours a night. I’m just worried I’ll never want to have sex again, and never think of myself as being attractive enough to have sex (if that makes sense?) even after our first was born, I didn’t enjoy sex as much because of how I felt about my body image.
Any advice on how to get back on track or will it be like this until the kids leave home?! I’m going for long walks with baby every day to boost my hoping to start exercising properly soon.