Sex is rubbish since my injury

[imjustsoworried]

Broke my knee in June, all quite rubbish, couldn't move or do anything for ages (including have sex!).

DP and I had sex for the first time since my accident the other night. We are lesbians and don't use penetrative sex toys so I thought it would be ok but I'm just not getting anywhere. I mean I'm enjoying it or I would say stop but I'm not getting wet at all, not orgasming, nothing. I've tried masturbating (pre trying to have sex again) and the same thing happens. And then after it's all over I just feel very dry and uncomfortable. Even fingering is sore because I'm just not getting wet enough.

This is rubbish! I used to love sex and I feel like my body has just failed me entirely since the beginning of the summer. How can I fix this ASAP?!

June isnt that long ago. Your body is still healing. There probably isn't a fix this ASAP solution though and I suspect worrying about it will make it worse. Give yourself some time and try to stop worrying. It will come back.

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June isnt that long ago. Your body is still healing. There probably isn't a fix this ASAP solution though and I suspect worrying about it will make it worse. Give yourself some time and try to stop worrying. It will come back.

Thank you I appreciate that. I just feel so sad for both DP and me - we had such a physical relationship before and I honestly feel mortified that this has happened.

Are you still taking painkillers? Or were you on strong painkillers when it first happened? They may be impacting your libido.

I was on pain killers after damaging a disc in my back. Killed my libido completely. Took several months to return even after I stopped the tablets....patience...things will improve

How old are you? Could be perimeno and you're noticing the change because it's been a month or so.

I had slightly similar problems but for different reasons. I found a lot of it was in my head after a while as I was worrying so much about being dry and drying up, it would make it worse. I found these things helped and now I can actually have sex without any lube. Obviously it may not be the same for you but hopefully it helps in the meantime.

I used a lots of silicone based lube inside and out before anything even starts. I was advised silicone as it doesn’t dry out. (I use pjur med but any will do I’m sure) Secondly using clitoral vibrators helped as I found this caused less friction then fingers or anything and it helped me not to focus on sex too much. I would also look at things that turn you on that doesn’t include touching the vagina and build it up from there.
I also know you’re desperate for it to go back to normal as soon as possible but slow and steady definitely wins the race, doing too much too soon can make it worse.

Hope it gets better for you soon!