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Can someone knock some sense into me?

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PartTimePoster · 25/08/2021 11:00

Just need a bit of perspective and someone to get me out of my head on this one please!

I've recently gotten obsessed about my gf masturbating - I seem to jump from being really turned on by it to the feeling desperately insecure to the point of feeling like I'm losing my mind! We have a fairly good sex life, possibly not as often as I would like but when we do it is good, I'm confident that she is satisfied in the bedroom as I'm very attentive and generous and prioritise her pleasure most definitely, she is always very complimentary and feels it's all good in that department!

But now it has come up sometimes in conversation, and by accident I kind of interrupted her once in the moment - Something which I think has triggered this almost compulsive thinking about it.... when? why? how? I'm finding it exhausting and upsetting as in reality I know it's perfectly normal and acceptable for anyone to want to pleasure and sort themselves out sometimes!

Guess I just need to vent this as it's hard to talk to someone about it without sounding/feeling like a total creep! Just could do with some reassurance and have some sense knocked into me!

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Sparkybloke · 25/08/2021 11:10

Almost everybody who is sexually active masturbates. It is perfectly normal and no reflection on your relationship. I masturbate. My partner masturbates. Sometime we masturbate one another. If we are apart she loves watching me over whatsappGrin. We are open with each other...
For you her having time to herself is perfectly normal. Best not to interrupt though...unless of course she deliberately wants to be found! Relax...communication is the key to all aspects of a relationship and that includes sex.

PartTimePoster · 25/08/2021 11:15

@Sparkybloke literally the response I need! I don't know why it's got me so insecure, the devil in my head making it a negative, like you say it's totally normal for everyone to do it, fully aware I'm being silly about it - Appreciate the comment!

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Sparkybloke · 25/08/2021 12:05

Glad I was of some helpSmile

StarlightLady · 25/08/2021 12:15

Female, early 40s here. Please relax. The needs are totally different. It’s “me time”. It’s totally unlike shared 1:1 sex.

Are you suggesting that you don’t?

PartTimePoster · 25/08/2021 12:29

@StarlightLady thank you for commenting - Totally understand it's a different thing, for some reason I've taken it personally, think I'm probably more sexually frustrated than I realise - but appreciate this is a thing we're both entitled to do

And yes I do, with no bad reflection on her! I am aware I'm being a donut about it!

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