What to do about ED

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I've started dating a guy, who is very sweet and attentive. After several dates, I went to his for a sleepover. Before we headed to bed, he told me he has issues with getting an erection. I've never had this with anyone else and now I don't know how to deal with it. It's a long term problem for him but he does want to solve it. He definitely enjoys it still, but I don't see how he can be satisfied without ejaculating. Anyone dealt with this before?

Does he have health issues? Circulation issues? Medication for other conditions? If not can he get hard and ejaculate from masturbation? Age too is a factor. I would get him to book a health check for underlying issues. If there are no physical issues then it may be a mind problem...confidence issue. If so and his doc has ruled out a health issue then viagra or cialis etc will probably guarantee he gets hard. Available without prescription now ..once he gains confidence he will probably not need the pills

A health condition makes him prone to ED. He has tried pills, but they didnt work. I'll have to talk to him more but don't want him to feel pressured.

Have a chat with him the poor bloke , take penetrative sex off the table and just lots of other forms of intimacy and completely no pressure.
Hopefully that should help but ultimately you need to think of yourself as well op,it is quite early days with this guy and you need to think if you can live without sex or sexual contact for the time you are with him .

Yes, I really need to think about it. He's my first after separating and it's been a while already since I was intimate with someone. I'd hate to make things worse for him though. Thanks for the advice!

You can still make someone cum with ED if you give a blow job. If there's some movement try a cock ring. Just don't rush the poor man as he's probably embarrassed about it.
A trip to the GP would be a good idea too.

Missing the point but he should have told you about this before you got to the point of sleeping over. He's made his problem your problem.

I would like to know more about why the pills he tried did not work. I am a long-term user of Viagra and find that it is useless unless taken on a completely empty stomach. I need an interval of about 7 hours after eating if it is going to work. It then takes about 45 minutes for the drug to take effect. Viagra is, in my experience, better than Sildenafil, the generic alternative. Why that is so rather baffles me, but the headache side-effects are definitely worse with Sildenafil.

I have also used Cialis. It is supposed to be less reliant on being taken on an empty stomach, but I have found little to support this. It also lasts for 36 hours, and that is certainly not so with me.

I think that it may well be worth further research into chemical assistance before writing off the potential benefits.

I wish you good luck.

@cookiecreampie yes, it does feel a bit like that, but I also accept that it's a sensitive issue to raise with a new partner.
@xpc316e That's very helpful to know. Definitely didn't follow that protocol on usage.

I met my wife in 2002 (we were both aged 55) and sex was amazing for us both. It was the best that either of us had ever experienced but I did not ejaculate. It probably means that I lasted longer than I would if I "finished". Yes it worries me and I want to cum inside her and have a few times but now at the age of 74 I am happy to get hard and get some PIV. I'm happy if she is happy.

A viagra pill dissolved under the tongue is faster acting as it enters the bloodstream without going thru the digestive system and interacting with other elements. Works very well everytime.