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Anal assault

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morethanspice · 01/08/2021 14:44

I met someone off a site for sex, I consented to PIV but he penetrated me briefly anally which I most certainly did not consent to. I’m now bleeding as I get fissures occasionally. I’m phoning doc tomorrow but feel like I’ve been assaulted.

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66babe · 01/08/2021 19:18

Did you stop the sex immediately when this happened ?
What was his reaction ?
Are you ok ?

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morethanspice · 02/08/2021 22:10

I was alone with him and he pulled out when I said no but he had jabbed me without warning and he then quickly finished vaginally.
I was feeling very spaced out and just wanted it over and away
Anal was never discussed, I can’t do it due a recurring fissure and don’t want to anyway
I think it’s rape

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PinotPony · 02/08/2021 23:40

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you're ok.

Do you think it was intentional on his part? Your use of the word "jabbed" makes me wonder if it was accidental, especially if anal had not been discussed. I don't ask that to detract from how you feel but it can happen sometimes.

If, on the other hand, he deliberately penetrated you anally then it's clearly rape as you did not consent.

Is there anyone in RL who you can approach for support?

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morethanspice · 03/08/2021 00:33

He definitely tried to insert it and partially succeeded, I’m in no doubt he knew exactly what he was doing
Absolutely no one I can tell
I’m so ashamed

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Maggiesfarm · 03/08/2021 01:19

That is appalling, morethanspice. I can imagine how painful it was, the pain stays afterwards for a while too (happened to me once when I was young). How dare he even think of doing something like that without asking you.

Quite disgusting that he immediately went into your vagina straight from your anus too.

I think that was rape but I doubt you'd be able to prove it. I would be inclined to talk to someone at a rape crisis centre, at least there will be a record of his action and he is likely to do it again to someone else.

If you think there is injury, do go to your doctor. Hopefully you'll feel better tomorrow and the bleeding will have stopped.

Please be more careful in future (I'm not blaming you at all because he was the one in the wrong but we have to protect ourselves); get to know someone a bit before you take them to bed. A person can seem quite nice on first acquaintance and be a pervert like that one, or even worse. It doesn't bear thinking about.

I hope you get some sleep.

OrlandointheWilderness · 03/08/2021 12:53

This happened to me (first time I'd slept with someone. I was only 16) but he kept going for a minute or so. It IS rape, and it has stayed with me for the rest of my life. I bled for a few days so expect to be sore and I am so, so sorry.

OrlandointheWilderness · 03/08/2021 12:54

You have NOTHING to be ashamed about. You have done nothing wrong.

Maggiesfarm · 03/08/2021 16:56

@OrlandointheWilderness

This happened to me (first time I'd slept with someone. I was only 16) but he kept going for a minute or so. It IS rape, and it has stayed with me for the rest of my life. I bled for a few days so expect to be sore and I am so, so sorry.
That's terrible Orlando. What is it with some men wanting to do such a thing?
66babe · 03/08/2021 19:15

Horrible shocking disgusting absolutely evil creatures to do that to any of you
Please go to your Dr and have it documented , be examined to ensure you have no injury or need for antibiotics and please access some therapy.. ghat goes for anyone in this situation
Please do not let the actions of some evil bastard ruin your lives

OrlandointheWilderness · 03/08/2021 19:49

God knows @Maggiesfarm. To be honest it is the first time I've actually told anyone really! I've told my boyfriend but I've spent a long time ignoring it. I've only recently realised it may have had a bigger effect than I realised.

OrlandointheWilderness · 05/08/2021 07:17

How are you getting on @morethanspice?

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morethanspice · 05/08/2021 09:17

Hi
The bleeding has stopped. I know I can’t prove he intentionally tried to penetrate me. I’m ok but angry x

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OrlandointheWilderness · 05/08/2021 09:58

Glad you've stopped bleeding. It's horrible isn't it, I'm still angry and it happened to me 20 years ago. You've every right to feel angry.

Maggiesfarm · 05/08/2021 11:22

@morethanspice

Hi The bleeding has stopped. I know I can’t prove he intentionally tried to penetrate me. I’m ok but angry x
I'm not surprised.

I hope your experience is 'logged' somewhere. Even though you cannot prove he did it, it may be something he often does.

Horrible man. I hope you never see or hear from him again.

Maggiesfarm · 05/08/2021 11:23

PS: I'm glad the bleeding has stopped.

Thelema72 · 08/08/2021 05:10

You should post this in the relationships category ,you'll get far more support and advice, I'm so sorry this happened to you

CarnationCat · 08/08/2021 11:07

I'm sorry this happened to you. It is rape.

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