Does anyone else fantasise about having sex with an older man!

[LipstickOnYourCollar5]

I am in my 30’s and often wonder what sex with an older man is like, I mean late 50’s, early 60’s. I’ve only ever had sex with men around my age bracket and younger.
I often wonder whether their experience, makes a difference being that much older and wiser.

No need. My husband is in his fifties. And it’s true that he is certainly improving with age! 😂🥰

It's not for me. Younger men all the way.

I'm 59 - guess we try harder because we are just happy to get some sex.

Do your fantasies involve pot bellies, ED and getting out of breath after 10 min?

I don't know as I'm 61 :-).

When I was a teenager I certainly did fantasise about having a relationship with an older man. I don't know why, possibly I thought they would treat me very well and take care of me. Not someone in their fifties or sixties but a man considerably older than me.

The reality was quite different (I tried it).

In my twenties I was really happy to marry someone of my own age.

I think they both have their pluses. Older men have experience and may know what works. Younger men have sheer raw energy and can shag you into tomorrow.

@Estherpologist

Do your fantasies involve pot bellies, ED and getting out of breath after 10 min?

Not quite 😆 In my fantasies they tend to resemble the likes of George Clooney 🤪 I know my fantasies would be quite different to reality.

Enjoy!
I guess that often for people with the older man fantasy you have that safe and protected feeling? Maybe more cherished too as you’re seen as a prize perhaps? So just go with your fantasies and it’s certainly not unusual.

@Estherpologist

Do your fantasies involve pot bellies, ED and getting out of breath after 10 min?

You shouldn't judge everyone by your own experiences..... :-)

Speaking as a man (or at least as a lawyer in his early 30s!) I've always been more attracted to order women. It's not just the sexual experience (always a bonus) but the amazing life experience to share too.

@LipstickOnYourCollar5

I am in my 30’s and often wonder what sex with an older man is like, I mean late 50’s, early 60’s. I’ve only ever had sex with men around my age bracket and younger. I often wonder whether their experience, makes a difference being that much older and wiser.

Google Electra Complex. It's a pretty common thing.

@IsItWeekendYet1 - I’ve just googled, I’m not sure that relates to myself.

The thing about fantasies is that they are something outside your realm of experience - it's simply no longer a fantasy if you've already done it. If you are with a young partner, then your fantasy may involve an older one, and vice versa. For example, this forum often features posts from women whose current partners are men, but who wonder what it would be like to have a female partner.

I think that it is entirely normal and even healthy to have erotic fantasies, and also normal to want to realise them. Being realistic means that one should accept the prospect of the realisation not being as wonderful as one hoped it might be. The fact that something might not turn out to be quite as fantastic as I hoped would not put me off trying it if the opportunity arose. Variety is the spice of life, and oranges are not the only fruit, if you know what I mean.

I think that’s a general fantasy for young men as well, to meet a Mrs Robinson figure who can show you the ways of the world.

But as a 50 something man, I’m most certainly not getting 30 something women throwing themselves to test out their fantasies

When I was 30 I got with a man from work who was about 54. I though he would have been amazing in bed, he was also a Dr so should have known a bit more about the female anatomy than he seemed to. The sex was average at best. I can only think as he'd been in a long marriage previously he'd become stuck in the same routine in the bedroom. I really think everyone is different in the bedroom, young and old. Older doesn't necessarily equal better.

At 59, I also don't have younger women throwing themselves at me, but please, form an orderly queue!

In my case, I'm tall, dark, not completely ugly, trim and fit for my age (no pot bellies or being out of breath after 10 minutes here, thanks @Estherpologist! )

I recognise I'm not 20 (30 /40/ 50) anymore, so always ensure my partner is focused on, rather than it all being about me.

I fantasise about sex with a younger woman, but I think that's completely natural - age lusts after youth (in more ways than one!)

I recognise I'm not 20 (30 /40/ 50) anymore, so always ensure my partner is focused on, rather than it all being about me.

Isn’t that how it should always be

@LipstickOnYourCollar5

I recognise I'm not 20 (30 /40/ 50) anymore, so always ensure my partner is focused on, rather than it all being about me.

Isn’t that how it should always be

@LipstickOnYourCollar5 - Absolutely! But it isn't is it?

@AverageGuy - In some cases but unfortunately not all 😕

I have always preferred an older man, my husband is just over 60.
He is tall and lean and has loads of energy !
He is very sexual ,is very good, has no problems ! and is always willing .

I've always been attracted to older men myself

@AverageGuy Me thinks the -lady- boy doth protest too much.

I had a time with a 53 year old who was absolutely God's gift to women, God he was incredible. I was 49 though I can pass on your details if you like... doubt he'd mind . He's not safe though, and not protective. There's a chip of ice in his heart, or at least there was for me. I don't particularly go for older men, or much younger men either, though I've dallied a bit with the younger ones.

I've almost always had older guys and would try not to again, in the hope of having a lover whose erections are more reliable and who have more stamina etc in bed.

Early 40s and definitely have a fantasy about an older man. Or men!