Shutting down during sex!

[Ohiwish00]

I have been with my husband for many years, we have children. The last few years of our marriage have been difficult. We nearly divorced over a year ago but we wanted to make things work. He is a good husband and a fantastic father. When we’ve had sex recently, I almost shut down and can’t enjoy myself, it seems I can’t connect myself to him anymore. We are both quite different people now to the young couple we once were when we met.
I don’t know what to do, I feel so emotional this morning.

I'm sure someone will be along with some good advice to offer soon, I wouldn't know what to suggest but in the meantime I just want to say that I'm sorry you're feeling so sad this morning. I hope you manage to sort things and start to feel better soon.

Sounds like you have a lot to unpack in your head to understand why. Would recommend a therapist to help you through that process. Then couple's counselling if somethings need working on together. Good luck

Have things improved over the last year or have you been treading water?

(I mean re your relationship, not the sex)

Thanks for the replies.
@Catullus5 - Very much treading water, although he’s a good husband, he hasn’t been there for me emotionally, particularly when I had PND, we haven’t really grown together through the years, we are both quite different people now and this has become more evident over the years.