Sex and possible ED

[Ohlalah]

My partner and I have always had a good sex life. Recently I’ve noticed he’s not hard anymore when I go to bed and we have sex, previous to this he was always hard when I jumped into bed in the evenings, I will be lying naked next to him and although I play with him, it sometimes takes time for him to become hard and more recently he’s lost his erection during sex, also he hasn’t always been ejaculating. Could this be Erectile Dysfunction? He is very senior in his job and has big responsibilities and works fairly long hours, he has also been fairly stressed recently, so could it be stress related?

TIA

How old is he?
Very High stress kills my libido stone dead and there is not a naked woman on the planet who would entice me.

Could be Ed.
Far too many women believe men’s sexuality is simply
Woman with open legs = erection= sex=orgasm

Its as multi faceted as a womans.

It does depend on his age, health etc.

As I've got older (I'm in my 40s) stress will have a big effect on my ability to get (and stay) erect, turned on etc and (sometimes) ability to ejaculate. When I was younger stress didn't really make much difference.

I was also on antidepressants for a bit and that ruined everything, even for a while after I came off them.

If he's not ejaculating through PIV perhaps try telling him to lie back while you give him a seeing to in some other way.

To answer a few questions, he’s fit and healthy, slim/athletic build, nearer to 40, he doesn’t smoke and is an occasional drinker.
I also give him BJ’s and we don’t have sex, although this has been less often, as we’ve been tired, so generally we focus on sex more but I’ll also give him oral before sex too. I think it may be stress, I was just worried that there was something about me that was maybe causing it, I think I am just overthinking things.

Almost definitely stress related ED,

www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction-anxiety-stress

Will affect most men at some point

Very unlikely to be anything you're doing wrong, given that you give him BJs, play with him, etc.

@Catullus5 More in the way that he doesn’t fancy me anymore. I’m so used to him always being hard and when he sees me naked and we’re kissing and he’s not hard, I can’t help feeling it’s me.

That's completely understandable. It's just the sort of thing that would get into the head of anyone who wants to give their lover a good time.

When I undergoing lots of stress, I get utterly tired out, all I want to do is .. nothing, and all sorts of bits of my body and brain don't respond to things that would I'd normally like. It's like seeing things though fog. Regarding sex, it means my ability to respond physically and mentally is reduced or gone. Nothing to do with my DW at all.

[quote Ohlalah]@Catullus5 More in the way that he doesn’t fancy me anymore. I’m so used to him always being hard and when he sees me naked and we’re kissing and he’s not hard, I can’t help feeling it’s me.[/quote]
Personally I would say him always being hard is actually quite unusual, it would be more normal for him to get an erection when aroused and not have a permanent hard on

It’s not permanent, it’s always been in the evenings, also early morning.