C4 show sex parties

[GrrrlPwr]

Anyone else watched this on C4 tonight? I liked the blue hair guy. But not the other bloke. He was sleazy! Curious to know what others thought about it

I've been to a few swingers parties. One thing I can guarantee is they are no where near as glamorous as that prog made them appear.

@GentlemanJay

I've been to a few swingers parties. One thing I can guarantee is they are no where near as glamorous as that prog made them appear.

What are they like? I've always wanted to go to one but end up being a chicken and not going

Well they certainly aren't as glamorous as you may think. To be fair I did go to one twice that was glamorous, but it was the house that made it that way.

You are better going to one with a good number of people. Small gatherings where you have say four couples, can be very awkward if you don't fancy anyone.

I have been to ones where absolutely nothing happened. Lol.

I have images of sex parties being full of glamorous people.
@GentlemanJay - What do you do if you don’t fancy anyone? Do you leave, or just make friendly conversation?

Well. Well we would always stay. We were nosey so enjoyed talking to as many people as possible. Just because we didn't fancy them doesn't mean we couldn't have a good chat about the scene and other things.

That happened once. We were the last there. No one had played and everyone had left. The hosts insisted we stayed "for another drink". We stayed for hours chatting. By the time we arrived home, the Sunday morning papers had been delivered.

The social side of things is very important for a lot of people, including myself. It's not all about sex.

I was more curious about how it all works (never been to one!) I wasn’t sure if it was purely sex, or whether there was an element of the social side that drew people to such events too. How I imagine how things work, is probably further from the truth.
How do you initiate play with other couples?

The social side is important to many.

Well, you chat to people. If you like them, you and your partner may have a little code between one another that lets each other know it's a yes or a no.

I've found the best way is to be very up front. You don't want to be still chatting at four in the morning thinking "do they fancy us or not,it's getting late"

I'd say something like "we are going to find a room for some fun, if you want to join us that would be great"

We would then go and leave them. If they follow that's great. If they don't follow then they don't fancy you.

Ah ok, quite different to how I imagined things. I had visions of people walking around naked and having sex in front of each other 🤦🏼‍♀️

That can happen too. Whatever you can imagine can and does happen. You could go to a party. Stay in the kitchen. Keep your coat on. Smile politely at people and leave early. I've seen it happen

You could strip down to your lingerie, parade around l and flirt. You could even join in any public group play. I've seen that too. It is what you want it to be. You are totally in control.

I don’t think I’d have the opportunity to, I do like the idea though (not the public group play though!) I’ve just looked on the Killing Kittens page and seen they have a few events. I will keep my eyes open!

I didn't see this particular programme (will watch on catch up!) but they usually portray sex parties as horrible seedy affairs with very unattractive people up for anything they can get. So I'm impressed if this one actually appeared glamourous.

@Strawberriesandcream3

I don’t think I’d have the opportunity to, I do like the idea though (not the public group play though!) I’ve just looked on the Killing Kittens page and seen they have a few events. I will keep my eyes open!

KK parties have varying formats so it's worth understanding the difference if you're thinking of attending...

Kabaret is perfect for newbies as it is a dinner and burlesque show. So, even if you don't play, you can treat it as a fun night out. Seating in booths where the play starts before people head off to the large playroom. Quite overwhelming the first time you walk in and see all the naked bodies!

Hedonism is in a spa so very hot and steamy. People get naked quickly. Don't bother doing your hair and make up! Avoid the hot tub after midnight.

Mansion is as described. A huge house with multiple bedrooms. Giant beds. Bar and dance area. Think Eyes Wide Shut.

Kreatures of the Night is a new format. Kind of fantasy themed so great opportunity to dress up imaginatively. I'm going on 5 November and can't bloody wait!

We have a pre-party chat group so you can get to know other attendees before the event, get an idea of who you might want to meet in person. Always pre-drinks at a nearby bar before the event so everyone can just chat and flirt in a public setting. Guys are suited, girls in cocktail dresses. Masks (Venetian not medical!) on when you enter the venue.

Absolutely no pressure to do anything. Some people just like to drink, chat and watch others. Others dive straight in. Lockers and changing rooms available. Condoms provided. Useful to take breath mints, wet wipes and lube in your bag.

What age of people do these clubs normally accommodate. I want to go with my boyfriend but we're early 40's so I don't really think I fancy watching a load of gorgeous 20 somethings lol 😆

@cosmicbabe

What age of people do these clubs normally accommodate. I want to go with my boyfriend but we're early 40's so I don't really think I fancy watching a load of gorgeous 20 somethings lol 😆

I'm 47 so you'd be in good company! I've met plenty of people in their 40s and 50s. All different shapes and sizes. Yes, there are talk, leggy 20 year old girls and young guys who look like they live in the gym but there's an equal number of dad bods and mum tums.! So there's something for everyone!

I've been to a few swingers clubs, and find that there are a huge range of ages, body types and people that attend, from 20 somethings to seventy somethings, (I'm nearly 60) and from gym fit to dad / mum bods, BBW's and everything in-between.

As @GentlemanJay has said, the social side is just as important as the sexual, if not more - if you don't make a connection, then it's not going to happen.

The downside of swingers clubs is that you can (and sometimes do) get single guys "pestering" women / couples, (walking around in towels or less, often with their, er, appendage in their hand...) particularly after the pubs get out..

Not been to a KK party (expensive, and imho, elitist, and yes, I'm a KK member), so can't comment, but KK is female led, and guys can't attend most of them unless they have been invited, so less issue with the "wanking dead".

I'm looking forward to returning to the clubs come next week!

@AverageGuy

I've been to a few swingers clubs, and find that there are a huge range of ages, body types and people that attend, from 20 somethings to seventy somethings, (I'm nearly 60) and from gym fit to dad / mum bods, BBW's and everything in-between.

As @GentlemanJay has said, the social side is just as important as the sexual, if not more - if you don't make a connection, then it's not going to happen.

The downside of swingers clubs is that you can (and sometimes do) get single guys "pestering" women / couples, (walking around in towels or less, often with their, er, appendage in their hand...) particularly after the pubs get out..

Not been to a KK party (expensive, and imho, elitist, and yes, I'm a KK member), so can't comment, but KK is female led, and guys can't attend most of them unless they have been invited, so less issue with the "wanking dead".

I'm looking forward to returning to the clubs come next week!

Just to echo what Average Guy said.

Most of the people I've met on the scene are very much into the social side. I've got many female friends who I don't play with. Some ive never played with. Genuine friends that I have days out and trips away with. It's not what you would expect but how do you find that type of friend in your 40s and 50s? I've found loads.

As for singing clubs, that's a whole different topic.

Never been to a swingers party but our local nightclub is bad enough, the guys don’t think anything of putting their hands up your skirt, also grabbing your bum whilst walking past. This was a few years back though. I think parties like KK, as averageguy mentioned where it’s female-led, would benefit women a lot more.

Same here @GentlemanJay... I've made friends with people in the community who I've never played with because the chemistry isn't right but I'd consider them to be close friends, men and women.

The benefit to having such friends is that we can talk about all things sex and kink, and ask for advice, without anyone being offended or kink-shaming. I feel like I've found my people! 😂

@Femme99

Never been to a swingers party but our local nightclub is bad enough, the guys don’t think anything of putting their hands up your skirt, also grabbing your bum whilst walking past. This was a few years back though. I think parties like KK, as averageguy mentioned where it’s female-led, would benefit women a lot more.

That behaviour would get a man thrown out of a KK party so quickly his head would spin. And the kitten who invited him would probably get a ticking off too.

The organisers are so hot on consent. You categorically do not touch another person without their consent. It's also considered very rude to stand too close watching people play unless you've asked first.

Men aren't allowed to wander around on their own unaccompanied. It should be fairly obvious which kitten they are accompanying. Ive heard it described as similar to taking a toddler to soft play - they can venture away from you but you always want to have an eye on what they're doing!

@PinotPony - That sounds great for women, a safe and consensual place for people to explore their sexuality.