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So, how long have you been celibate?

27 replies

peanutttttt · 30/06/2021 07:56

I've recently decided to be celibate and to not date and I love it. I've eliminated all toxic ex's and flings. Just cleansing my mind, body and soul.

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B1rdflyinghigh · 30/06/2021 08:15

I did that last year. I felt wonderful. I had decided before the pandemic started, but it did make it easier!

Tiw8 · 30/06/2021 10:38

I have had periods in my life of up to five years. I am now at an age where it doesn’t really interest me that much.

Estherpologist · 02/07/2021 09:13

I've been celibate for nearly 4years, but not out of choice. And its killing me. What I wouldn't give for a good, hard ... TMI?

Does your joyful celibacy just exclude other people or all sex?

JustAnotherOldMan · 02/07/2021 14:42

From about mid 2018 to about 2 weeks ago …
Didn’t feel like doing much during 2019, then Covid hit, didn’t really miss sex, now have met someone new and it’s all good 😊, everything still works the way it used to

SexForumNameChange · 02/07/2021 15:27

@Estherpologist - Why don’t you try a FWB/FB?

Estherpologist · 02/07/2021 16:12

@SexForumNameChange It's very tempting and something I've considered I'm not entirely convinced by the risks - do it on the QT and that's dishonest and probably destructive, or opt for an open marriage and there's danger of emotional involvement with the FWB which is possibly destructive. If I could sort out my marriage, that would probably be time better spent. But I'm still gagging for a good, hard ... yeah, TMI again.

SexForumNameChange · 02/07/2021 17:11

@Estherpologist - Oh sorry, I didn’t realise you were married. 4 years is a long time, is there a reason why you don’t have sex anymore?

Estherpologist · 02/07/2021 17:25

@SexForumNameChange No apology needed. There's lots of reasons. But I think this is turning into a thread hijack, so I'll leave it at that.

MisterT373 · 02/07/2021 18:46

December 8th 2018 was the last time I DTD. Thinking of donating my private parts to science - that way they might prove of use to somebody

Actually is there a sexual organ donation scheme ?

SexForumNameChange · 02/07/2021 19:36

@Estherpologist - I hope you can sort it out with your husband. I always used to think it was mostly men who were in sexless marriages but I am coming across a lot of threads that say otherwise.

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peanutttttt · 03/07/2021 05:06

@Estherpologist I've recently just went celibate. It's honestly because I just don't feel anyone is worth it rn. I love sex but I don't want to have meaningless sex anymore.

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peanutttttt · 03/07/2021 05:08

[quote Estherpologist]@SexForumNameChange No apology needed. There's lots of reasons. But I think this is turning into a thread hijack, so I'll leave it at that.[/quote]
@Estherpologist oh wow I also didn't realize you were married. How do you do it? I can't be with someone who I don't have sex with. I would be miserable so I understand your need for a nice hard.. Grin

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Estherpologist · 03/07/2021 08:53

How? I scratch the itch in the privacy of my own bedroom and die a little inside with every Petit Mort. There's other stuff wrong with the relationship. Sex is both a symptom and catalyst.
I think I I'm lucky that I've never really had the meaningless sex you're stepping away from, so that connection was always there.

Auldspinster · 04/07/2021 05:33

The day before the last General Election. Also gagging for it, met someone who I hope to break the dry spell with soon.
He's in his 60s and I hope everything is still in good working order, but not quite at the stage where I can ask "Oi...can you still get it up?

Danceswithwhippets · 04/07/2021 08:52

People often seem to say they are celibate when they're really in sexless relationships, which is a very different thing.

Surely celibacy involves choice ie making a decision to abstain from having, or looking for, sex. Not being prevented from having sex, or having it denied.

So even in a relationship, one person can be celibate but the other is not celibate but sexless.

Estherpologist · 04/07/2021 10:18

@Danceswithwhippets The definitions I've found don't mention a requirement for it to be voluntary. Emforced celibacy is still celibacy. If you want to be pedantic, I don't think I'm strictly celibate because it's only sex with someone else that is missing.

me4real · 05/07/2021 04:01

8 years is my record- I hung out with my ex who's my best friend all the time, so think it made it harder to get involved with someone. Even lived with him most of the time.

About 18 months this time round. I don't feel attractive, so don't feel the need for sex with anyone else.

I'm rethinking my sexual vibe, used to like things really rough but now cherish myself. Have a very close relationship with my Magic Wand. Smile

Thisisworsethananticpated · 16/07/2021 10:14

I’d say 2 years
And have been solidly obsessed by boys and men on and off from the age of 14/15

I do want some No strings attached sex

But it’s too risky

tiredmedic · 16/07/2021 11:22

Not through my choice but .......17 years now. Desperately want my wife but when we talked about it a couple of months ago she confessed to having no real interest.

HoneyComb11 · 16/07/2021 12:48

@tiredmedic

Not through my choice but .......17 years now. Desperately want my wife but when we talked about it a couple of months ago she confessed to having no real interest.
17 years? Wow Shock
JustAnotherOldMan · 16/07/2021 13:33

17 years, as PP says, Wow

CBUK22 · 17/07/2021 10:21

For me this would be to miss out on something very special when between the right two people, I'm curious how it comes about.

One instance where it's really not fair is in a relationship, where one partner decides to unilaterally withhold it in a relationship. This seems to be a very common gripe I hear from men.

JustAnotherOldMan · 17/07/2021 12:11

For me it was not really withhold sex, more like my ExW withdrew from that part of our marriage, but she wanted the benefits, nice house, fancy foreign holidays etc, that 2 good incomes brought, but without the bedroom part.
That’s what really pissed me off, and tbh I think it does with with lots of people

zarek · 17/07/2021 20:25

There's no issue if you are happy without sex and companionship. Mind you from what I see it is easier to enjoy being single if you know you can end it whenever you choose

LittleRedPill · 18/07/2021 06:36

5 years once. I had just come out of a bad marriage, was a single parent and not in a great place mentally. I needed to sort myself out and focus on my children so I took and extended break from dating/sex.

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