The Matt Hancock video made me envious, am I the only one?

[TulipTuloo]

I saw the video if Matt Hancock before I even really knew who and what it was. With no context I found myself quite jealous. The obvious frisson, the snogging, the play. I've never really had that (DH is not demonstrable) and I just thought "oh, that's what lovers do".
Yes, I don't particularly find him attractive and I've since read his character is pretty snakey. But the video itself, i suppose it made me want to experience that sort of lust.

I like a good old snog but Matt Hancock's attempt looked awkward and a little insincere to me .

@santabetterwashhishands Ah you've been brain washed by the portrayal of snogs, fumbles and sex on the TV. Its all perfectly lit and beautifully choreographed whereas in real life it is anything but. Matt may be struggling with a semi being constricted by a pair of over tight briefs or he might have the door handle sticking in his arse.

Real world snogs are anything but erotic to an onlookers.

And why is the camera moving - it looks like its hand held, not firmly screwed to the wall.

The operator, usually a security person, is zooming in. I noticed that and thought it very odd.

Or it was a person recording the CCTV footage on their phone from the screen

"My heart breaks just a little more when I see kissing on TV. Marriage can be cruel."

I know exactly what you mean. I feel exactly the same when I see actors kissing in a play or a film. It is a reminder that DW will not give me more than a peck on the cheek or the occasional kiss on the lips with lips primly closed. I usually look away as it is too hurtful.

@GeorgeOhWell - Have you spoken to your wife and told her how you feel about it?

I have tried to discuss it on a number of occasions but the conversation is either shut down or I am told I am putting her under too much pressure. I have given up.

@GeorgeOhWell - Putting her under pressure to kiss you? Does that mean you don’t have a sex life either?

No, we haven't had sex for over a year and prior to that it had been once or twice a year. What I miss the most though is the small intimacies in a relationship, a quick kiss, the touch of a hand on an arm, holding hands. We have been married over 30 years but this doesn't seem normal.

@GeorgeOhWell - I think you’re quite a bit younger than me, so maybe my perspective will be different. Sex and intimacy is a very important part of a relationship/marriage but I think when you get older those dynamics change and become more about companionship, so maybe to your wife they aren’t as important anymore.
Is your marriage generally happy? Or is this more a symptom of underlying issues?
If you hold her hand, will she pull away?

@SFNC you're right in saying that the dynamics of relationships change over time - the honeymoon (can't keep your hands off each other) phase gradually changes into something less urgent. Also, life gets in the way with work, children (we have four, all adults). If I am honest I don't think the marriage is happy but for various reasons neither of us have the opportunity to move on. Hand holding - it has been so long I can't remember.

Not very passionate. Yeah, both unhappy in their marriages and probably sticking it out for the sake of the 6 children between them but they did it in the wrong way and should’ve been open about things.

@Estherpologist

I completely get what *@MisterT373* says. My heart breaks just a little more when I see kissing on TV. Marriage can be cruel.

TBH this video looks fake to me - ok, they're standing right in front of the door, where you might point a security camera, but they're soooooo centre-frame its conspicuous. The preamble to the kiss is like something out of a Charlie Chaplin film,. He looks more wooden than a 70's porn star (see what I did there?) And why is the camera moving - it looks like its hand held, not firmly screwed to the wall.

As for Hancock's desirability, I dont remember John Major or Edwina Curry being the most attractive couple in the world, but they still got it on. And why not!?

Yes, marriage can be so cruel. I was in one until recently. I had to end it after 23 years.

Ick, ick, ick is what I think.

He looks happy but it’s flirtatious rather than raunchy.

I reckon he’s got a semi, hence his lover whispering in his ear.

Agree with pp that she doesn't look into it at all--pulling away, hands on outside of his arms (not snuggling in to touch him) then holding his hands on her waist - to prevent them roaming around any more!

Looks so odd. Watch Normal People or Call Me By Your Name… that’s passion.

That is seriously NOT passionate. We've been together 20 years and no we're not likely to be seen snogging and groping in the kitchen but when we do it's defo more passionate than that wet blanket. Tho it's not a high bar to go over to be fair. The groping looks awful and awkward.