Men would you prefer sex with a female who hasn't had a vaginal birth?

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I've tried to ask if I now feel different and look different but I couldn't really get a straight answer. I'm sure I must do to a point. But my question is I guess does it put men off? I have before been told how "tight" I was but guessing I'm not any more but I haven't slept with anyone new since giving birth. So I just want to know if it's now off putting for men that I look different and feel different. Obviously anyone new wouldn't know what I previously felt like anyway. But I just want to know if it is a problem.

Nope

Definitely not!

Simple...no!!

Thank you for your answers. It's good to know - it gives me hope!

If you're worried about tone, I highly recommend the Perifit pelvic floor exerciser. It's worked wonders for me, and I've had several large babies. Last year I dated a doctor. After we DTD for the first time he wanted to know exactly what exercises I'd been doing

I’ve had two vaginal births, my DH has never complained, or mentioned it feels different, although I didn’t have particularly large babies (although it still felt like I was pushing a water melon out of my fanjo ). The vagina is like elastic, it can stretch and then retain its normal shape.

Seriously, any man who asks did you deliver naturally, it's like t'Channel Tunnel down there? is probably worth dumping on the spot.

I've slept with 4 women who've had vaginal births as well as women who haven't.

You couldn't tell. The tightest was someone who'd had two kids.

If you're worried about satisfying a man then concentrate on enthusiasm - believe me, that trumps everything else and is something a lot of women don't appreciate.

Divorcedanddelighted I read your post last night while half asleep and in a moment of weakness I ordered one 😂

It makes little difference, vaginas are designed for giving birth and recover from it very well. Damage from episiotomies / tears / stitches might make it feel different for the woman but I doubt that any man could tell what has changed simply by feeling with his penis.

@Fruititty ,I'm pondering ...let us know how you get on !

Now I want a perifit but can't use them in pregnancy apparently, grrr. Those who've purchased please do a review 🤣

Wouldn't bother me or likely even enter my head either way.

It will arrive in about a week. I'll let you know. I hope the games are fun!

First time poster. At the ripe old age of sixty (male) I am embarrassed to say that I have probably tested more vaginas than I should have done both when married and later separated and divorced

One of my first loves was so tight it was difficult to penetrate. Two recent contacts (sadly both paid for) and having had 2 and 3 vaginal births both bruised my manhood with their pelvic muscles

Don’t believe it, I love any pussy attached to someone I care about

If anyone should mention it's like throwing a sausage in wind tunnel, tell them to fuck off .
Vaginas are meant to have babies just do some pelvic floor exercises

@MyBallswereblue

First time poster. At the ripe old age of sixty (male) I am embarrassed to say that I have probably tested more vaginas than I should have done both when married and later separated and divorced

Your poor wife!

What a sad question to ask!

As if having to deal with the constant requirements of the male gaze isn't enough, there is so much internalised misogyny that you would consider whether having children affects your attractiveness sexually ??
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What's the male equivalent? Answer there is none.

Do yourself a favour and celebrate the fact you gave life; any man lucky enough to come near you should be appreciative and unless he's an adonis who's body has had a similar journey has no right to expect anything more from you.
I do kegels but for me so I have a strong pelvic floor and can control my bladder..not to make me tighter for sex!

Build your self esteem and confidence; it's generally more attractive

It may be a sad question, but it isn't an unusual discussion amongst mums to be and new mums frankly. And it isn't a new concern.

I know in the 1930s it was routine if a new mum needed stitches she was asked by the midwife if she would like a stitch for her husband! My great grandmother was asked although she apparently never revealed her answer.

My DH after I had babies loved telling me when playing how "tight I was" which was his compliment to me but also shows it does bother them!

It may have been a question in the past ( when women had limited rights) but surely we should be looking for progression not regression.

What if the overriding response to this thread was yes ? And most men responded with saying they prefer partners based on how they've given birth.

Prospective mum readers may opt for more c sections or what..forgo becoming a mum altogether.??

Can you not see how damaging threads like this are to women who are already battling with unattainable standards at every turn?

The premise of the question says a lot about the OP hence my suggestion for self esteem building and more confidence in herself!

@guatran

Now I want a perifit but can't use them in pregnancy apparently, grrr. Those who've purchased please do a review 🤣

I've had the Perifit for about 6 months and have found it great. I used to get up several times in the night for a wee but it's rare that I need to do that now. I can really feel the difference. I don't worry about stress incontinence. The games are fun and there's some variety. I used to use an Elvie trainer which was a similar concept but the Perifit is much more evolved, eg it has shallow & deep sensors and shows you your contraction "quality" ie that you're pulling up rather than bearing down. I have a referral code that gets you 20% off & pays me about 10 euros - pm me if you'd like it.

@DivorcedAndDelighted

I'd love the code - thanks

I can assure you women who have given birth are just as desirable and good at sex as those who haven't. Were they not, you would never hear of men falling in love with and even marrying a woman with children, or having affairs.

Most women feel a bit 'meh' about their bodies for a while after having babies but when they regain confidence and hold themselves high, they become very attractive. As for 'down there', pelvic floor exercises and enjoying sex makes it all go back to how it was.

I can honestly say that I was in better nick after having kids - not straight away, I was somewhat bedraggled for a time, but after a while. My body was certainly in better condition than before when I had been very thin. I remained slim but shapely. No probs with the minge :-), I knew how to use it.

Downhill all the way now but I don't care ;), just glad to be alive and well.

Wouldn't worry like willy's fanny'y come in all shapes and size irrespective if they gone through child birth . Some as tight as a mouses ear other like a wizard sleeve .

@rwalker

Wouldn't worry like willy's fanny'y come in all shapes and size irrespective if they gone through child birth . Some as tight as a mouses ear other like a wizard sleeve .

Yup. It's how you use them that matters.