Mind blowing Orgasms Without DP

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I can have amazing orgasms on my own through self-play but with my partner I can’t achieve it. It’s almost like I can’t get into that mindset.
Does anyone else have the same problem, or any suggestions please?

I have the same problem but no suggestions I'm afraid!

If this is the same with all your partners, not just this specific one - what you are describing is a female equivalent of ‘death grip’.
You have conditioned yourself physically and mentally to a certain type of stimulation.
It’s both on physical and mental level.
So - if you want to change that - or at least get to a point where you also orgasm with your bf - you need to find a way to include him in the sort of play that gives you the best orgasms.
And/or see if you can’t find a way to touch/help yourself when you are having sex. There may be some combination of his and your stimulation that may work.