Is it It or Me?

[Curiouslycurly]

Just curious about this as have started tinder dating again after divorcing a year ago....some men seem to refer to their penis as "it" as in "its hard" etc etc others would say "I'm hard". The former creeps me out a bit, as if they're referring to a pet, or a kitchen whisk or something. I'm not the local tinder bike, just that most men seem to introduce the subject early nowadays 😄

Has anyone else ever wondered about this?

If you have yet to meet these men in person and they are already talking about their state of arousal I would suggest they are men you really don't want to meet! How ever they are describing 'it' they sound creepy......but just my take...and I am a man...

In my limited experience (like, 2 hours before I deleted the app?!), Tinder is a prime source of blokes who want instant messaging sex.

They are saying 'it' and 'I'm' for now, not to put you off by immediately saying 'my cock'. But they'd probably graduate to that.

This is a thing, this sexting hook-up, and it's rife. Even the nicest-seeming guys might do it, I've found. Even ones who say they want a deep connection still also want to 'secure' you sexually early on.

Be aware - it usually blows over after a shortish while (you may know all of this if you've been on there for some time?).

I'd be super wary of who you talk to and what they want. And even more so of who you meet.

As for language - if you are consensually having this sex chat with them - what else should they call 'it'? If you'd prefer a different way of referencing it then tell the guy by using your word in a reply. And tell me. I'm interested to know as it's tricky to find good words for It. ...

And try OK Cupid for a site with some actual questions etc that give you more idea of the person and who they are.

Guys still get in early with they hey cutie talk, but at least you can filter them better. And everyone seems v sweet on there. Not so up front suggesting you drive straight away to their favourite car park. 🙄

Been OLD on & off for years, never have I ever, had a man message me about his erection. I must be good at weeding those out before they get a that far. It's not how they are mentioning it, it's just mentioning it at all that would cause an instant block. But I guess it depends what you're after, if you're happy with just sex, that would explain why you don't mind sex talk with strangers, fair enough.

@Opentooffers

Been OLD on & off for years, never have I ever, had a man message me about his erection. I must be good at weeding those out before they get a that far. It's not how they are mentioning it, it's just mentioning it at all that would cause an instant block. But I guess it depends what you're after, if you're happy with just sex, that would explain why you don't mind sex talk with strangers, fair enough.

I haven't elicited it intentionally. Perhaps it's to do with the photos?

I am no prude, l wouldn’t be posting on the Sex section, if l were. But, if assumptions made by others on here are right and you have not met these people they would be a non starter for me. It sounds as if their brains are situated too low down.

Juvenile boy talk is not a good entry process to meeting up.