Orgasms Not Happening Anymore!

[OrgasmsNotHappening]

I have been with my DP for many years. I have not been able to orgasm for a long time now and it’s really starting to affect me, not only that when we have sex, it’s like i can’t become aroused easily and I shut off, I’m worried it’s starting to become ‘The elephant in the room!’
We’ve had a rocky relationship over the past few years and nearly separated this year, things were said that hurt me but we are in a much better place, I’m not sure if this is relevant to what’s happening in the bedroom. I love him and don’t want us to separate.
Does anyone have any advice please?

Are you on any medications? Anti-depressants can do this, for example.

Can you orgasm on your own? Have you tried a vibrator?

I’m on no medications and I can orgasm on my own.

That you can do it on your own is very good news. Is he open to guidance about how you need to be pleasured to orgasm? If you're having trouble getting aroused are you using hormonal BC?

@MissConductUS - It’s not that he’s not pleasing me or spending enough time satisfying me, I think it’s the emotional side, I feel like I shut down! I’ve never experienced it before and don’t know how to change this.

Maybe get some counselling to deal with the emotional side if you’ve been through some rough times. You may be shutting down as a form of self protection?

@Vegiepatch - Yes it could be an option but I just don’t know when I’d have the time, we also have children. Sex just doesn’t feel the same, emotional/chemistry wise and we’ve always been a fairly sexual couple in the past, I don’t know how I’ll come back from this.

Try online counselling?

Yes I will look into it - Thank you!