I need to wear nice lingerie to have sex

[hp655]

I do, I hate my stomach and feel really self conscious so I wear sexy under wear problem is, it's every single time. I talked to my partner that I have this issue, he says I really don't need to do it but it's a bonus for him. I just don't have the confidence. I've been doing this since we met 2 years ago and although he's seen me naked I despise myself so feel better if I cover up the bits I'm not happy with.
I wanted him to say you are beautiful whatever but he didn't.

Either you accept the underwear and don't beat yourself up about wanting it, or you have to just rip the band aid off and not let yourself cover up any more.

I do understand very well as am super upset about my own stomach after last baby, and a couple of other sections of my body, so much that the idea of him touching even my stomach makes me feel upset. Having said that, I think ultimately it's better if you can a) do whatever you can do improve the bits that have gone wrong but mainly b) just calm down about how bad or otherwise it is - for certain you view it as awful but he doesn't.

Maybe you just have to get used to it and accept it. He definitely has by the sound of it, and doesn't have a problem.

But this is about you.

Yeah it makes me feel more confident but sad I can't be naked and not be self conscious.

My perspective is that most men are quite basic in their needs (sorry blokes 😁) and really, at end of the day, I think they just want somewhere wet and warm to stick their dicks into, so I don’t think they are really that concerned about the wobbly bits. I think it’s very easy to get caught up with media expectations, etc. I try and focus on emotional connection and what I’m projecting from within not just the external.

I'm a bit like this too and have taken to wearing baby dolls and slips. It just makes me feel so much more comfortable but long term I'm not sure what the solution is.
Well... Lose weight and tone up I guess

Nothing wrong with this at all if it gives you confidence etc