How to overcome body worries

[FluffyFreya]

I haven't had sex since I split up from exDH 5 years ago so it's fair to say I am really looking forward to having sex again but I've had two c-sections and have an awful overhang.
Could do with losing some weight and I'm working on it but it's not about to disappear anytime soon.
Met new guy online and if things keep going as well as they have, there will be sex (hopefully lots!). I'm just really worried about how much of a turn off my body will be. I'm happy to wear sexy teddies etc but tummy is still noticeable.
Any advice please!

He's bound to be just as worried about his body, assuming you've not gone for some toy boy Adonis. I'd just go for dim lighting! Take some time to pamper yourself beforehand in whatever makes you feel good e.g. leg wax or pedicure etc. I doubt he'll go from being keen on you to finding you a complete turn off just because you are slightly over weight with a belly overhang. Just relax and enjoy!

@FluffyFreya,
If he is fortunate enough to be in a position to have sex with you, he won't be worried about the odd lump or bump. It certainly wouldn't bother me!

As pp said, he will likely be concerned about his own performance to worry...

Or you could just have a discussion with him about it.

Regardless, have fun!

[quote AverageGuy]@FluffyFreya,
If he is fortunate enough to be in a position to have sex with you, he won't be worried about the odd lump or bump. It certainly wouldn't bother me!

As pp said, he will likely be concerned about his own performance to worry...

Or you could just have a discussion with him about it.

Regardless, have fun! [/quote]
Absolutely this,
Most guys really don’t care that much, and if anything like me will be just as paranoid about middle age spread and their own performance.

Just relax, take it easy and enjoy lots of good sex 😄

Funnily enough, he has made a couple of comments about being unhappy with his weight so he is maybe having the same worries I am!
Thank you for the reassurance, it's been a long time since I've been with a man and all those wee insecurities suddenly turn into raging monsters

Enthusiasm, passion and encouragement/instruction is 100 times sexier than any physical attributes.

Give me horny, wet and orgasmic over any supermodel body every single time.

One of my previous partners had a stunning body, but was the dullest and most disappointing partner in my life, where the best was chubby, had stretch marks, heavily asymmetric, droopy boobs and bad teeth - I loved her dearly, fancied her rotten and she was sensational in bed.

You have nothing to worry about!

I started old about 6 weeks ago and starting chatting a really nice guy. Met up for walks and coffee and really hit it off. I to am over weight have a over hang and top it off with an ex hubby that had an affair my confidence was at rock bottom. I had a over night stay at a hotel for work amd asked him to join me but I had the chat that I was not a super model!! She was amazing and just said you r what you r and own it . I had the next night in a very long time . He made me feel so special and has given me a belief in myself . When u met the right person it will be fine . Best of luck

He’ll not bother, just be delighted to be with you.. enjoy yourself.
Ps I’m a 56 year old chap with moobs, and I worry about image but have found it doesn’t matter.

To reassure the OP a lot of us guys like curvy women, and when things hopefully get down to business he'll be more focused on turning you on than what your belly looks like. Wear a nice outfit you feel good in and you can always turn the lights off if you're still feeling self-conscious. Good luck and have fun - sounds like you deserve it.