Too Big?

[EddieRUOk]

(Hopefully) NC for this thread.

I've been dating a guy for a while and a couple of days ago we had sex for the first time. Not a stealth brag at all, but he was quite big, I think too big for me. We couldn't do doggy due to the pain and with missionary he had to be very slow and gentle. Absolutely no issues with how he handled the situation, he's been told he's big before so made sure to take it slow. It felt like it was hitting my cervix. I bled very slightly afterwards, despite how slow and careful we were.

Im wondering if this is something I'd get used to or we just don't suit in that way? I love hard, fast sex and although it was good as I really fancy him, I felt like I'd missed out.

Anyone in a similar position or has been in the past?

Thanks!

Could you try some positions that allow for shallower penetration? I think take your time getting turned on before sex and see if that helps. Personally I prefer bigger men and feel that if there isn't a bit of discomfort to begin with, there isn't going to be an orgasm.

Thank you. I will think of some different positions to try, I think spooning might work. I was really turned on but will try with more foreplay too.

I agree that usually a small amount of discomfort at the start can be pleasant but this was just constant, it honestly felt like it was hitting something it shouldn't have been!

We did use condoms and he was circumcised (first circumcised man I have been with) Cant imagine they've made a difference but possibly worth mentioning.

I had a fling with a guy once who was quite large. He said "you'll get used to it". I suppose it was nice in a way that that it suggested there would be other times from his POV, but I kinda thought, Na, that's not good enough, didn't want to get used to it, I also didn't respect him as he was up for it too early and like some men with big ones, they seem to think the size speakers for itself and are lacking in foreplay and other areas. I suppose I didn't feel enough chemistry in the experience really. He was up for staying the night, I said " no, gotta be up early" and kicked him out basically. There's a nice big, then there's too much. If you like him, and he's considerate and good at other things also, then fine, just take it slow. Not great that you bled after though, hope you have regular smears. If all's ok with you, you might just be anatomically incompatible. I'm told tall women tend to be longer in that department, so perhaps he'd be better off aiming in that direction - unless he's short and big, which could prove to be hard to find a match.

Thanks Open. He was very tall (6'5) and I'm tall also, 5'10.

Fortunately (or unfortunately) it'll no longer be an issue as he has done a complete 180 on me So I won't be seeing him again.

Im in my mid 20s had one smear which came back fine. I havent bled before, just with him!

Anyway, all is redundant now.

I think bleeding the first time you have sex with someone large is normal but if it happens too often you should go to the GP.

I also think you do get used to the size with regular sex but if they are especially huge you probably wouldn't.

Similar to a previous poster, the men I had sex with who were enormous were crap at oral and it was all about them, definitely thinking the size of the dick is all that counts🙄

It says something about the huge is best brigade. Very big can be uncomfortable, but l think more than anything it says something about his lack of skill as a lover.

It’s not about getting used to it, with plenty of oral before entry and a gentle slow initial approach you should be fine. Slamming into your cervix is not what it’s about.