How long is penetration for you?

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I read that the average is between 5 and 15 minutes. DH has always thought that anything under an hour is too short.

I've always believed that I lacked stamina but reading this makes me think he's been wrong all this time.

We average at about 20-30 mins but sometimes longer...he always thinks it has to be a bit of a marathon and that his performance is shit if he doesn't manage to do it for ages....I've now explained that not many women could keep up with this sort of thing and we're not doing it for that long any more! I should add, it's not half an hour of PIV with no changes of position or other activity.

He seems surprised about the average times....he's often been very insecure about his abilities even though he's actually very good and loving...he seems relieved about this knowledge!

I've never timed myself but when I was in my 20s I'd estimate about 5 minutes. Now I'm in my 40s, more like 10 - 15 and after that I get bored and a bit sore.

30 minutes? Ouch.

DW has never complained about me being too quick or slow, and I've always assumed that what comes before PIV is at least as important.

Yes what comes before and after is just as important. DH I think is always trying to hold off...so it's just too bloody long!

I've never booked at the clock either. Unless it's a quickie, I'd probably be disapointd by less than 15min. It's been 2 or 3 hours on a occasions: that was fun but most times I guess I'd probably get bored after half an hour and want to finish the job quickly by hand.

Literally like a couple of minutes!
Probably five maximum.
Which suits me absolutely fine as it only takes me a few minutes usually aswell.
30 minutes?!
I’d be bored within the first 10 and really sore at the end.

How long is penetration? Depends on how deluded I am when measuring.

Oh, it's a time question. Depends on the circumstances really.

We spend more time on foreplay than having sex, sex is roughly 10-15 minutes.

If I want to orgasm it normally takes 30-40 minutes...

It's usually an hour or more, but that will include a bit of BJ to warm up, then several changes between him on top, me on top, bit more oral in between, more positions. If it was just him on top then he'd only last 10 minutes or so; when he starts to find it all too exciting we switch around until we're both ready to finish and I've had as many orgasms as I want. It's great . We only do it once a week or so though, but the quality is so good... . With my ex it was much more functional ; after being together for years, we could both get off within 5 minutes, but that was very much one and done for me. Way back in the early days, he could go on for an hour or more too, and we'd get up to all sorts. So could my only other long - term lover. Can't remember much detail about the short - term ones. But long sessions have always involved lots of different things. I think I'd find it quite boring to be just laying there with someone hammering or grinding for ages!

Max 5 mins usually

I think an hour sounds a bit much. But then I suppose it depends on who's doing it, and quite a few other factors.

Usually no more than 10 minutes. There’s no way I’d want to go for even half an hour.

I feel sorry for your DH thinking this is what is expected by women. I hope he feels enlightened 😁.

My ideal PIV time would be around 10 minutes. In reality it's more like 20 and I get bored and sore. Dh seems to be taking longer and longer to cum (don't think booze helps...)

About 5 minutes though he can delay his orgasm if he wants to last a bit longer, maybe around 10 minutes. If we haven't had it for a few days he'll pop really quickly, but usually he can control it.

Oh god...an hour!! I hate it when my husband says he’s ‘saving it’ (orgasm) I just tell him that it’s not rationed and we can do it again 🤦‍♀️ For me, a quickie is under 5 minutes. A regular session is around 15 minutes with unlimited cuddles afterwards.

I'd be bored shitless pumping away for an hour 😴

Oh god, I love a good hard shag but an hour sounds tiring, boring and drying!!!

If I'm nicely warmed up with some deep kissing, having my upper back and neck kissed, having my nipples sucked (I really love this) and some oral (sometimes not necessary and I prefer to stop before climaxing so I can have my orgasm from PIV) then I only need a few minutes of PIV to climax. H will often come at the same time or if not he will "speed up" and come a minute or two after. Neither of us can see the point of bashing away for ages when we both have a really satisfying orgasm doing what we do!

It not only how long to consider, also how continuous. I've no problem with 15-20mins with start and stop, changing positions etc. The problem is that it would be good to be able to do more continuous thrusting. With continuous vigorous movement the maximum would be a couple of mins and the more turned on my dp becomes the quicker I get there. From what I've seen many guys can last longer than this and it would be good to get some ideas to improve

Minimum is 30 minutes (rare), but it's typically 1hr to 90 minutes. We both enjoy our sessions, but sometimes wish I'd orgasm sooner - it'd be nice to have a 'quickie' occasionally. We normally have 15-30 minutes of foreplay beforehand.

@honeylulu

Oh god, I love a good hard shag but an hour sounds tiring, boring and drying!!!

If I'm nicely warmed up with some deep kissing, having my upper back and neck kissed, having my nipples sucked (I really love this) and some oral (sometimes not necessary and I prefer to stop before climaxing so I can have my orgasm from PIV) then I only need a few minutes of PIV to climax. H will often come at the same time or if not he will "speed up" and come a minute or two after. Neither of us can see the point of bashing away for ages when we both have a really satisfying orgasm doing what we do!

@honeylulu Perfect description of what I like too! 👌

In my wild and single days it would tend to be quite short - often 5 mins or less - because of the circumstances, just doing it where we could, I suppose. With DP now, it would be about 15, max 20 mins I think. That suits me, and I normally orgasm just after he does, so we're both fulfilled at the end usually. I'm three months pregnant now, so I'm finding I like slower thrusting, so may PIV time may get longer...

It's about quality, not quantity. An hour for one couple can be very different from an hour for another couple. I feel like it's hard to compare ; depends how long it takes each of you to get what you need.

With one of my exes, long sessions would indeed have left me bored because it would mean one of us was having trouble reaching orgasm, or he had had too much to drink, etc. We had hot, quick sex and it was often very good. With current partner, it is different - we have long sessions because we want to, could easily finish quicker but we're still having fun, and crucially, we are older and don't live together, so it's not like a long shag is getting in the way of someone doing the laundry.

I have always felt embarrassed, I love foreplay, giving more than receiving, PIV unless I can really think of boring subjects or I have gone numb with overplaying I rather unhappily shoot my load in a couple of minutes

It depends... we probably have a quickie PIV (5 mins) three or four times a week. And then a good session of PIV for about 40 mins after lots of foreplay and oral before and during once or twice at the weekend. The session can last from an hour to two (max) with multiple orgasms.

We normally use a vibrator on DW whilst I slowly thrust lying next to her to reach her orgasm, which usually takes about 10 mins. After that we'll change positions once or twice and continue PIV for another 5 mins or so for a total PIV of about 15 mins give or take.

I'd say we spend about the same time on foreplay.