How to talk dirty to my husband

[DirtyTalk]

I have no issues with knowing exactly what to say in dirty text messages to my husband, I love the anticipation that sexting during the day builds up and how turned on it makes us both. I have been married to my husband for 8 years and trust him and we have a pretty open relationship where we can tell each other what we want but I find it so hard to actually talk dirty to him during sex apart from the basics I just feel awkward and don’t want to sound silly.

What can I say that will be hot and really tip him over the edge I would love to surprise him because I know he would love it. Also any ideas on how to spice things up in The bedroom would be great I want him to know just how much I want him and want to please him.

I am the same, I can filth it up in a text like nobody's business but face to face I can get a bit tongue tied. What I have found is I can tell him how good things feel and give words of encouragement. Also facial expressions and just noises can speak a thousand words. I am going to try to progress to full blown smut though 😁

I was hoping for a grin there. That looks more like a grimace.

I would suggest a couple of routes. I talk to my DH as if we are in a scenario and then its like telling a story. So we might be on a night out and have popped outside the pub in the dark or driving home etc. The second one is to read erotica and just take their stories as your own with a bit of personalisation. First and foremost I use stories that turn me on.

@Fruititty my husband says my face alone when I’m in the moment is the sexiest thing he has ever seen, he makes me feel amazing so I don’t know why I have an issue talking dirty I think I just need to let go and just try it, it’s not like he would laugh at me. We had an amazing sex life and then struggled a bit after dc was born for all the usual reason and I’m just enjoying feeling like myself again and want to keep things exciting.

What would be the ultimate dirty talk turn on for you? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4082167-what-would-be-the-ultimate-dirty-talk-turn-on-for-you

Lots of tips on this thread....

I went on a zoom course to learn! 😂

That sounds like my kind of course!!

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Maybe try first sending him the occasional sexy/etc voice message. So in the course of a what's app exchange, record a line or two of you saying the words rather than writing them.

It's a bit of a barrier go through but after a while it gets fun.

Once you establish your (filthy 😅) voice that way then it will be much easier to slip into it when he's inside you. I think.

@PinotPony nothing turns me on more than the way he looks at me and tells I look good. I have a lot of body insecurities, but I know in the moment that he means it, he makes me feel more confident when we are having sex than I ever will fully dressed. He is also incredibly unselfish in bed and cares that I’m taken care of more than any other guy I was with before him.

Don't do it face for face if that's an issue.
Try it when spooning, either him behind for sex or you behind with your hands. Nothing like a whisper in your ear.

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Get some practice away from the bedroom. Think what your text to him and try saying it out loud. When youre feling more confident, discretely say it to him in the supermarket or when you're in the car.

How about starting with a great session you've had in the past? "Remember that time when we were on holiday and we..." etc. Just describe what you did.and how it felt.

And maybe spice it up with "Next time we could even..."

I describe how good he feels to me, in detail. What I enjoy about what he's doing to me. And it seems that telling him he's brilliant in bed is very effective .

you could start by when he is inside you just murmuring a v simple 'fuck me'

That always seems to work. I think it's probably quite fail-safe. And you could repeat it a few times. It's only two small words 😉