Husband can’t hold an erection and says sex hurts?

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We have been married 2 years, together 7. Before lockdown 1.0 our sex life was fine, once/twice a week but we were happy. We are both not very body confident so it can be awkward sometimes lol.

Anyway, since lockdown and the Dc were home 24/7 we didn’t have it much at all. And we haven’t had sex or anything since October now.

Today was the first time we’ve had time to ourselves and we’ve both been off work. So we spent the day snuggling in bed and watching tv.

We tried to talk about it but obviously he’s embarrassed. After a while and taking the time we finally started having sex while I was on top. After literally a min he pulls away from me and says he’s finished.
He hasn’t obviously. He said he hurts sometimes, but it’s not my fault?

I’m feeling Abit shit tbh ☹️

I don’t know what to do? He keeps saying he can’t preform. 😔

Forgot to add!

When he’s asleep though he tries it on! He talks in his sleep and talks absolute filth which he isn’t like at all in RL. He “sorts me out” but the min he realises what he’s doing he rolls over and continues to snore. If I touch him he’s not erect at all.

Bump

If your husband is uncomfortable during intercourse it could be a skin or foreskin issue, but you really need to see a GP.
www.nhs.uk/conditions/phimosis/

If he isn't circumcised then definitely agree with PP. Especially if you haven't been having sex for a while the foreskin might have tightened up if he hasn't been retracting it regularly. If he has previously hurt it ( mine used to get little tears in the skin, which would scar and make it tighter and more likely to tear next time... Makes me wince remembering about it ! ) The more you hurt it, the more you expect it to hurt next time till it affects your ability to perform because you can't get it out of your head.

If that's the case, there are stretching routines you can do, but tbh nothing worked for mine except circumcision, so best see the doctor even though it might feel mortifying to him and goes against "man" thinking that you would rather die than see a doctor about your penis or prostate.

Good luck.

We sometimes stop if sex is hurting him. He is not circumcised and his foreskin can become tight or gets pulled down too much and then it’s game over.

We work around it and it’s not a problem, but life would be so so much easier if he just went and had a op. But he refuses too and I can’t force him. We’ve been together years now and it’s no longer a problem as I now know what not to do.