Lack of sex

[pinkandpurples]

Hi! I've been with my partner for just over 4 years. We don't live together but spend most nights at my house or his. We're in our mid 30s.

We only have sex once a month and it's really starting to get me down. He's very affectionate, but when it comes to sex he just doesn't seem that bothered.

Nearly every night we get in to bed and he'll start saying he's got a stomach ache, or an upset stomach. It's happening more and more often.

I don't really know how to bring it up with him, or maybe once a month is normal?

Put a pack of condoms and a pack of tums on your bedside table & make him choose, too many tums and off to the GP for a checkup otherwise it’s sex time !

@JustAnotherOldMan What are tums?!

Once a month isn't normal, unless you're happy with that which you're not. Sounds like he's got a low sex drive or maybe there's some kind of psychological issue. Has he always been like this?

@pinkandpurples
Sorry that just a joke really,Settlers tums what can take if you have an upset stomach.

Once a month might be normal for him, everyone is different

If he's got a low sex drive you're not going to change that easily. You're definitely not going to change it if you can't talk to him about it.
His stomach ache could be real or an excuse.
Either way, normal doesn't matter. If you have mismatched sex drives you need to talk to him about it or it's just going to drive a wedge between you. If you can try to see it from his side you've got a better chance of working through it together.
Good luck.