Normal dislikes

[Estherpologist]

There was a thread a few weeks ago about oral sex, and I was really surprised how many people said they didn't like receiving it.
I think I'm probably not in the middle of "normal" when it comes to sex, as there's very little I don't like or wouldn't be prepared to at least try. It got me wondering how normal dislikes of "normal" sex things are.
Assuming you like PIV, are there "normal" things you don't like? Does anyone actually dislike being masturbated? Or having their breasts touched? Or positions other than missionary? I can imagine there are some people who dislike wearing lingerie because of body confidence. Or dislike sex toys. Maybe my idea of "normal" isn't "normal".

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I really don’t like having my breasts touched, it was never an issue pre-children but since having babies and breastfeeding, I really dislike it.

I hate having my boobs touched also. Again only an issue after children, once you've breastfed they dont really seem sexual anymore. I let my partner touch them but it doesnt arouse me at all so entirely for his benefit.

I hate a finger being put in my navel - I've had partners who have thought it a sexy thing to do - instant turn-off and wanting to throw up!

I'm not a huge fan of oral being performed on me. I don't like my husband using a sex toy on me as I like to be in control of it.

@PussGirl Did you mean to post your answer in the "What's the weirdest fetish your partner has" thread? I'm more interested in things you don't like that are "normal" Lol

@Estherpologist some people like it apparently - bleeurgh!

Tongue licks in ear.

Please excuse the questions. I find this fascinating, like if I didn't like X would I still like Y?

@ChocoholicWineLover & @Solomon1212, I can kind of understand how breast feeding could change that. Do you have any similar feelings about your vaginas?

@cookiecreampie Do you like your husband masturbating you, or is just toys and oral that you don't like?

@user1471497286 I think I used to like that, but I can't remember. Ha ha!

@Estherpologist - No similar feelings about my vagina, still like oral and sex.

@Esterpologist no i still love oral and penetrative sex. I actually think im more sensitive there than i was before kids.
I think the breast thing is more psychological, my partner likes sucking nipples and it does nothing for me anymore after having children hanging off them, he likes it though. All a bit of give and take.

@Solomon1212 I hope your noble sacrifice is rewarded. LOL

@Solomon1212 - For me it’s psychological as well, sore nipples, having a baby attached to my boobs permanently, mild mastitis, all had an impact on the way I viewed my breasts and I also used to view it as bonding time with my babies. So it’s very hard to see them as sexual with my DH.

I'm definitely your side of normal. I don't think there's much I wouldn't try (short of being weed on or something). DH doesn't like giving oral (😭😭) and won't really talk about sex so has never bought up wanting anything other than the usual positions. So more the vanilla end of normal.

I've been weed on - did nothing for me & I don't think it did much for the guys (one at a time - two separate occasions) but they wanted to try it

My DP doesn't like giving oral, after a nasty experience in his youth at the end of someone's clotty period. Shame really as I like it - I'm working on him

With sex I'm generally happy to try it, maybe try it again if it was a it of a fiasco. & then decide whether or not I want to do it again

IMHO golden showers definitely fall into the kinky category and not what I was thinking as "normal". I think "kinky" can be a lot of fun, and each to their own if they like it, but I was thinking more "vanilla normal dislikes". Thanks for sharing though.😳
I feel so sorry for anyone who can't get good oral if they like it.

@Estherpologist

IMHO golden showers definitely fall into the kinky category and not what I was thinking as "normal". I think "kinky" can be a lot of fun, and each to their own if they like it, but I was thinking more "vanilla normal dislikes". Thanks for sharing though.😳 I feel so sorry for anyone who can't get good oral if they like it.

Yeah, I would stray too far into kink territory (is anal play considered normal or a kink these days 🤔). The oral sex thing does get me down a bit tbh as pre-DH it's something I always loved, but I knew from the out he didn't like doing it and I accepted that and moved on. So I just fantasise about it imagining lots of other men 😁

Wouldn't stray, that should say!

I don't like receiving oral but love giving a BJ. I enjoy pretty much everything else, although body confidence these days mean I am less likely to clamber on top (but will do, with feigned enthusiasm if I'm getting the nudge from DH)

@catsjammies Would? Wouldn't? Me thinks the lady doth protest too much.

@Solomon1212

I hate having my boobs touched also. Again only an issue after children, once you've breastfed they dont really seem sexual anymore. I let my partner touch them but it doesnt arouse me at all so entirely for his benefit.

I breastfed for three years and I absolutely love my boobs being played with by my DH. I nearly climax just from them being stroked. I wasn’t like this before having our child.

I'm with @PussGirl on the finger poked into tummy button - I would actually jump out of bed and go and sleep in another room : )

I feel pressurised into thinking that sex toys are normal, but for me they aren't because are artificial and my honest opinion is that I really don't like them. I would far rather explore all natural options. (This may, I suppose, involve carrots and courgettes, as they are not manmade and can be organic ; )

@Ponchek2 I think it's fair to say sex toys are absolutely normal, considering how many of us own them. Theres no good reason you should feel pressured to use them though. (I'm not sure I'd want to use a courgette, even if it was organic. 😁)

@Estherpologist

I think it's fair to say sex toys are absolutely normal, considering how many of us own them.

Yes, totally - just for me they don't feel normal (I tried to say that but sorry if didn't come across properly!). Just for me. My preferred normal (if there is such a thing?!) is just all natural (and organic : ).

I do not like a woman going anywhere near my bum - one way street, keep away!

DW doesn't like any attention around her neck or ears - gives her the shivers.